I do not understand why when two people spend so many years together they can not end it and be civil. Why must they throw comments at each other about the past. Who did what and so on. Every time we speak about the children, he says something to stir a stink. How do you deal with it?Why does everything your ex say drive you mad?
I would just sit and listen or say thats the past , she was just doing it to start an argument and get me wound up , just let it go in one ear and out the other......Why does everything your ex say drive you mad?
Once I served the papers, I never spoke to him again. IT made things SO much easier and drove him BATS!!!
it's like a hidden golden rule for people for some reason. I think that the reason they can't act civil toward each other is cause they still have some feelings they haven't talked through and by striking back in a rude way they feel like they are getting something lifted off their shoulders. but really it's only a temporary fix. Try sitting there and talking to him, let him get out every single thing that bothers him out, you do the same and maybe he can act more civil to you and you to him.
how i wish i know the answer too....
It is called stupidly. This is some who is not willing let the past go. It is really the both of you. You what to stand there and take on the fight. The thing to do is keep your mouth shut agree with him and walk a way. No mater how much it hurts in what he says. Keping your moth shut is the best thing to do.
I believe people do things like that when they know in their heart of hearts that they themself didn't do what was right in the relationship and now they are trying to force the other person to believe that it was all them.
i wish i knew and i so wish he didn't speak.
my brother is like that....just ignore him when he starts an arguement...and let him feel like he's won the arguement and avoid the whole thing...
Two reasons: One, the anger is still there. It's like a bucket of water filled to the top, and every drop after that overflows. Two, he needs to feel that he was in the right. Divorce is usually harder than marriage.
Friday, August 20, 2010
How do you get your ex to stop liking you???
heres the deal me and my ex broke up about two months ago... it only lasted one and a half months. when ever he was having a pissy day he would do something totally stupid that would me and make me miserable. he also told one of his friends (my friend too) that he should totally do me... i mean come on that is discusting. once i had heard that it was through and i broke up with him. now two months later we are friends and i have told him that over and over again but i guess he's not listening cause he just keeps trying and trying. i am now trying to make him stop liking me because none of my other methods haven't work... HELP ME!!!How do you get your ex to stop liking you???
Start seeing other boys, and don't see him as much (or at all!). Even though you tell him you just want to be friends, it gives him hope of getting back together with you. He did something rude to you, and you shouldn't see him no more. Trust me, you deserve better, and you can always do better than him. :]How do you get your ex to stop liking you???
This is when having a male buddy is a great thing to have! AND WHAT THE HELL DO YOU MEAN ';WE ARE FRIENDS ?'; When your ex is a really great lover, sometimes women will keep him around as 'Plan B'. You are in denial of how bad this guy really is because you are giving him the space to be emotionally involved! It sounds like you aren't exactly beating him off with a stick!
you need to cut him off completely, there is almost no such thing as ex's becoming friends, well maybe if it's a gay situation but any ways just get rid of him. He's no good just going to bring u drama and spread more BS go find urself someone better. Good luck!
do something that makes him despise you. tell him he has a small dick. make out with other guess in front of him. tell him your gonna call a hit on him. thats what mine did
btw i dont have a small dick thank you
ignore calls someimes or say you are busy... being a lying lil b**ch will eventually get rid of him just as long as ur rep doesn't change because of it
Mail him your pimple exudations, regularly. If that doesn't do it, you;re just too lovable.
throw poop on them. or give them the finger every time you see them. or have your old man rough him up.
Stop being friends with him. Ignore him. Stop all communications with him.
Just stop talking to him, tell him you want nothing to do with him.
tell him to go find someone else and stop obsessing over you
you have to stop talking to him. what you see as ';being freinds'; he sees as a ';chance';.
you Should let him do u
sleep with there best friend
Start seeing other boys, and don't see him as much (or at all!). Even though you tell him you just want to be friends, it gives him hope of getting back together with you. He did something rude to you, and you shouldn't see him no more. Trust me, you deserve better, and you can always do better than him. :]How do you get your ex to stop liking you???
This is when having a male buddy is a great thing to have! AND WHAT THE HELL DO YOU MEAN ';WE ARE FRIENDS ?'; When your ex is a really great lover, sometimes women will keep him around as 'Plan B'. You are in denial of how bad this guy really is because you are giving him the space to be emotionally involved! It sounds like you aren't exactly beating him off with a stick!
you need to cut him off completely, there is almost no such thing as ex's becoming friends, well maybe if it's a gay situation but any ways just get rid of him. He's no good just going to bring u drama and spread more BS go find urself someone better. Good luck!
do something that makes him despise you. tell him he has a small dick. make out with other guess in front of him. tell him your gonna call a hit on him. thats what mine did
btw i dont have a small dick thank you
ignore calls someimes or say you are busy... being a lying lil b**ch will eventually get rid of him just as long as ur rep doesn't change because of it
Mail him your pimple exudations, regularly. If that doesn't do it, you;re just too lovable.
throw poop on them. or give them the finger every time you see them. or have your old man rough him up.
Stop being friends with him. Ignore him. Stop all communications with him.
Just stop talking to him, tell him you want nothing to do with him.
tell him to go find someone else and stop obsessing over you
you have to stop talking to him. what you see as ';being freinds'; he sees as a ';chance';.
you Should let him do u
sleep with there best friend
Seeing your ex with some1 new??
Have you ever walked into a pub etc and saw your ex with someone new,how did you deal with it?
I just know it`s going to happen to me sooner or later and i honestly dont know how i`ll cope.We were together 6 years and have a child together and the thought of it is killing me,i truly think i`d kill them both.Seeing your ex with some1 new??
act like it doesn't bother you. go up to them and say hello... introduce yourself as the mother of his child and then keep moving. express confidence and don't let them see that it bothers you to see them together. it will make you look like the better person and it will leave them in shock. if you let them see you bothered, you will just look crazy in their eyes and she will feel proud that she has your past man... then that will just drive you even more insane. just act like a lady and have your confidence shine through. let them be jealous of YOU. not the other way around hun :)Seeing your ex with some1 new??
it hurts and we all know it just be sure not to go up to ur kid and say ';guess what daddy got a new woman!!';
good luck
Kelse
you'be got real issues just say hi to him afterall surely you want to keep it civil for the sake of your child and then just ignore them for the rest of the night or it it bothers you that much just go someplace else. no big deal really is it?
I would go to bits inside, but if they had got on with life then I should too. Life is too short, enjoy it with your child. You will soon find someone else. Good luck. I wish you the best.
Violence is never right.
So just imagine if the opposite happened. A great mistake
could be made. Try to take-on-board what those four words
mean. Re-temper ur attitude, and try to hone that learned skill
again. Join the minority, try to adjust against the worst majority
instinct.
Good luck.
when I seen my ex in the pub with someone else,I was livid,but thats life,Im also the mother of a young adult with learning difficulties,are you scared of what the future holds for you,,please dont be, you will come through this and it will make you a stronger person,the very best of luck to you in the future.
It is going to hard theres no doubt about that. But I am sure once you have seen them once, the hardest part will be out of the way. I still find it hard seeing my long term ex now after 5 years of us being seperated, and I am with someone else! You have the added sadness that you have a child together so you are going to have to see him and he may even want ';her'; to be part of your childs life eventually too, that will be harder I should imagine. When you find yourself a new fella though it should be much better. Good luck!
you got to ponder on the fact that you must have broken up with this guy for strong valid reasons.and keep those reasons rite in front of your mind. then it wont bother you too much. so what if he is with some one else,ignore it and move on. there should be no looking back .keep fit and be confident.unless you close old doors,the new ones wont open. his chapter in your life has ended,so wether he's wid tina ,rina or his grandmom it should not matter to you.now relax and good things will happen to you and your kid.
if u accept the break then why should the ex issue bother u. Just be 9c and pretend for the periods they are there and with time u'll get over it or ask him or her back if u asked for the break.
All the best
I've seen my ex with her new fella, i really thought it would bother me a lot more (maybe B/C im seeing some one new didn't bother me as much) i just ignored her...?!
If you see them be happy, let him know whats he's miising out on..!!
SORRY TO HEAR THAT........THAT WOULD WIND ME UP....BUT JUST SMILE AT THEM AND WAVE....COR THAT WOULD PISS EM OFF....GD LUCK
Why?
Its over, if they are with somone new then its obviously over for them... seriously move on.. and up!
You just look silly if you go funny.... also if you go to prison for killing them where would your child go?? to him and this new woman?!! i dont think so!!! lol just avoid his usal haunts i guess.. good luck!
da hell...kill em both? dang u guys are no longer together so u shouldnt be mad....well 6 year relationship ud prolly still have feelings w/ him/her,wtf why did u break up wit da person...just get someone new and tell ur ex u guys had sex 2 times a day...for 5 hours ea time u guys did have sex...
Hiya, happened me at weekend, i was goin out with ex for 6 years and even though i knew all the girls he has been seeing since we split i never saw him with one until this weekend. Its a year later and i have no intention of gettin back wit him but it was still upsetting, best thing to do is just smile and say hi and then if possible make a quick exit or keep them out of eyeshot so ur not torturing urself. Try and stay strong and dont fall to pieces, leave that till u get home if necessary, few tears never hurt anyone but dont blub in front of him, ul be very unattractive :) Good luck!!
You cant let them see it, no matter how much it hurts. You'll get through it and one day you will look back and this will be like a tiny drop in the ocean that is your life and you'll think why the f*ck was i that bothered. Life is too short. x
well its hard i agree, but you should learn to let go, or opt for a new place to live in till you r mentally strong to face such scenes without the thought of murder going through ur head
yeah, those are hard things to overcome, especially with a child together.
Best be correct, it may hurt but you can always walk out and go to another pub, if they see you then you should be polite and say hello, nothing more.
Continue on and hang out with your friends and then suggest another place to go to.
Good luck hon!
no, try not 2 think like that.
it's not good 4 u, him, the new girl or ur baby.
if u ever come across this situation, u'll need 2 take a step back %26amp; 4 the sake of ur child resist any temptation 2 kill.
u have 2 get on 4 the sake of ur child %26amp; it's really not worth lowering urself 2 fisty-cuffs!
is it?
go find urself some1 better %26amp; move on.
I have, and I can say i am not looking forward to it again myself as this area of Cinci is very small. It floors you pretty hard making safe passage for the two of them really.
-NmD!
I saw my ex with another woman at a restaurant. I had the waitress take them drinks from me. When he looked my way, I told him, ';Bottoms up.'; We both laughed. Later that night he called me and thanked me for the drinks. We're friends and I had no problem seeing him with someone else. Life goes on.
Dont do anything foolish, say hello and look confident and proud dont let the guy and girl think they have defeated you!!!
say hi by nodding for greeting him then ignore him and don't look his way, if u get so uncomfortable stay for a little while then leave the place
Hasn't happened. I KNOW I'd kill them both.
Its HARD!!!! Particularly when you havent been split long - even if you broke up on bad terms and hate their guts - it is still heartwrenching to see them look at someone the way they used look at you!
My only advice is if you do see them - position yourself with your back to them - or just somewhere were you wont end up unknowingly staring at them.
xx
Yes it hurts, but don't ever let them see it, he has moved on it is time for you to do the same, try to be friends for the sake of your child, but recognize that that part of your life is over
When it happens just smile.
Dont let him see its hurting you, strut you stuff and let him see what hes missing!
Grab the nearest bloke and flirt with him, it will piss him off and make you feel better!
Then sit back and watch the look on his face when he see's your not botherd.
Try and take your mind of thinking about him by having great nights out with the girls and find a new person for yourself!
You gotta gotta gotta find someone new, dont go on killing people! cos then you'd have the rest of your life to think about what you did in a cell-- you dont want that, for your kid at least....
my, i can see jealousy starting to crop up, better deal with it before it grows
Never happened, but it's means that they have moved on and so should you.
I live in a fairly small community (Milwaukee) and it is not difficult to run into your ex with their latest fling.
It is hard, but live and let live. . .time for you to believe in yourself and move on. Do what you do, let them do as they do, so long as your child is not involved in any witness to any name calling, etc.
Best wishes
I just know it`s going to happen to me sooner or later and i honestly dont know how i`ll cope.We were together 6 years and have a child together and the thought of it is killing me,i truly think i`d kill them both.Seeing your ex with some1 new??
act like it doesn't bother you. go up to them and say hello... introduce yourself as the mother of his child and then keep moving. express confidence and don't let them see that it bothers you to see them together. it will make you look like the better person and it will leave them in shock. if you let them see you bothered, you will just look crazy in their eyes and she will feel proud that she has your past man... then that will just drive you even more insane. just act like a lady and have your confidence shine through. let them be jealous of YOU. not the other way around hun :)Seeing your ex with some1 new??
it hurts and we all know it just be sure not to go up to ur kid and say ';guess what daddy got a new woman!!';
good luck
Kelse
you'be got real issues just say hi to him afterall surely you want to keep it civil for the sake of your child and then just ignore them for the rest of the night or it it bothers you that much just go someplace else. no big deal really is it?
I would go to bits inside, but if they had got on with life then I should too. Life is too short, enjoy it with your child. You will soon find someone else. Good luck. I wish you the best.
Violence is never right.
So just imagine if the opposite happened. A great mistake
could be made. Try to take-on-board what those four words
mean. Re-temper ur attitude, and try to hone that learned skill
again. Join the minority, try to adjust against the worst majority
instinct.
Good luck.
when I seen my ex in the pub with someone else,I was livid,but thats life,Im also the mother of a young adult with learning difficulties,are you scared of what the future holds for you,,please dont be, you will come through this and it will make you a stronger person,the very best of luck to you in the future.
It is going to hard theres no doubt about that. But I am sure once you have seen them once, the hardest part will be out of the way. I still find it hard seeing my long term ex now after 5 years of us being seperated, and I am with someone else! You have the added sadness that you have a child together so you are going to have to see him and he may even want ';her'; to be part of your childs life eventually too, that will be harder I should imagine. When you find yourself a new fella though it should be much better. Good luck!
you got to ponder on the fact that you must have broken up with this guy for strong valid reasons.and keep those reasons rite in front of your mind. then it wont bother you too much. so what if he is with some one else,ignore it and move on. there should be no looking back .keep fit and be confident.unless you close old doors,the new ones wont open. his chapter in your life has ended,so wether he's wid tina ,rina or his grandmom it should not matter to you.now relax and good things will happen to you and your kid.
if u accept the break then why should the ex issue bother u. Just be 9c and pretend for the periods they are there and with time u'll get over it or ask him or her back if u asked for the break.
All the best
I've seen my ex with her new fella, i really thought it would bother me a lot more (maybe B/C im seeing some one new didn't bother me as much) i just ignored her...?!
If you see them be happy, let him know whats he's miising out on..!!
SORRY TO HEAR THAT........THAT WOULD WIND ME UP....BUT JUST SMILE AT THEM AND WAVE....COR THAT WOULD PISS EM OFF....GD LUCK
Why?
Its over, if they are with somone new then its obviously over for them... seriously move on.. and up!
You just look silly if you go funny.... also if you go to prison for killing them where would your child go?? to him and this new woman?!! i dont think so!!! lol just avoid his usal haunts i guess.. good luck!
da hell...kill em both? dang u guys are no longer together so u shouldnt be mad....well 6 year relationship ud prolly still have feelings w/ him/her,wtf why did u break up wit da person...just get someone new and tell ur ex u guys had sex 2 times a day...for 5 hours ea time u guys did have sex...
Hiya, happened me at weekend, i was goin out with ex for 6 years and even though i knew all the girls he has been seeing since we split i never saw him with one until this weekend. Its a year later and i have no intention of gettin back wit him but it was still upsetting, best thing to do is just smile and say hi and then if possible make a quick exit or keep them out of eyeshot so ur not torturing urself. Try and stay strong and dont fall to pieces, leave that till u get home if necessary, few tears never hurt anyone but dont blub in front of him, ul be very unattractive :) Good luck!!
You cant let them see it, no matter how much it hurts. You'll get through it and one day you will look back and this will be like a tiny drop in the ocean that is your life and you'll think why the f*ck was i that bothered. Life is too short. x
well its hard i agree, but you should learn to let go, or opt for a new place to live in till you r mentally strong to face such scenes without the thought of murder going through ur head
yeah, those are hard things to overcome, especially with a child together.
Best be correct, it may hurt but you can always walk out and go to another pub, if they see you then you should be polite and say hello, nothing more.
Continue on and hang out with your friends and then suggest another place to go to.
Good luck hon!
no, try not 2 think like that.
it's not good 4 u, him, the new girl or ur baby.
if u ever come across this situation, u'll need 2 take a step back %26amp; 4 the sake of ur child resist any temptation 2 kill.
u have 2 get on 4 the sake of ur child %26amp; it's really not worth lowering urself 2 fisty-cuffs!
is it?
go find urself some1 better %26amp; move on.
I have, and I can say i am not looking forward to it again myself as this area of Cinci is very small. It floors you pretty hard making safe passage for the two of them really.
-NmD!
I saw my ex with another woman at a restaurant. I had the waitress take them drinks from me. When he looked my way, I told him, ';Bottoms up.'; We both laughed. Later that night he called me and thanked me for the drinks. We're friends and I had no problem seeing him with someone else. Life goes on.
Dont do anything foolish, say hello and look confident and proud dont let the guy and girl think they have defeated you!!!
say hi by nodding for greeting him then ignore him and don't look his way, if u get so uncomfortable stay for a little while then leave the place
Hasn't happened. I KNOW I'd kill them both.
Its HARD!!!! Particularly when you havent been split long - even if you broke up on bad terms and hate their guts - it is still heartwrenching to see them look at someone the way they used look at you!
My only advice is if you do see them - position yourself with your back to them - or just somewhere were you wont end up unknowingly staring at them.
xx
Yes it hurts, but don't ever let them see it, he has moved on it is time for you to do the same, try to be friends for the sake of your child, but recognize that that part of your life is over
When it happens just smile.
Dont let him see its hurting you, strut you stuff and let him see what hes missing!
Grab the nearest bloke and flirt with him, it will piss him off and make you feel better!
Then sit back and watch the look on his face when he see's your not botherd.
Try and take your mind of thinking about him by having great nights out with the girls and find a new person for yourself!
You gotta gotta gotta find someone new, dont go on killing people! cos then you'd have the rest of your life to think about what you did in a cell-- you dont want that, for your kid at least....
my, i can see jealousy starting to crop up, better deal with it before it grows
Never happened, but it's means that they have moved on and so should you.
I live in a fairly small community (Milwaukee) and it is not difficult to run into your ex with their latest fling.
It is hard, but live and let live. . .time for you to believe in yourself and move on. Do what you do, let them do as they do, so long as your child is not involved in any witness to any name calling, etc.
Best wishes
How to deal with your current partner and their ex?
My partner and I have been together for nearly 3 years. We have an 18 month old son together. He has a 7 year old daughter from a previous relationship, whom we have 50/50 (one week on, one week off).
When we first got together, he stated he was divorced. He was actually only separated, which I found out 2 months into my pregnancy. His reason for not telling me was that he doesn't see a difference as they have been separated for 4 years (at the time) and therefore are divorced in his eyes.
We went through many issues throughout our relationship and I left him in January of this year. I moved back in in August after 4 months of intensive counselling and affirmations from him that he would cut back on his friendship with his ex wife (they surpass the ';normal'; ex relationship by maintaining a friendship out side the parameters of their daughter). I am highly uncomfortable with the nature of their relationship as it impacts our family life on a consistent basis. In addition he had promised to finalize the divorce so that we could get married (we also want another child, but I am adamant that we be married first).
Today we got in a big arguement as he has not completed these tasks. The divorce is still not finalized (it's the end of October) and he is still friendly with her in a manner that makes me uncomfortable. I want a positive relationship between them for the sake of his daughter, but the friendship stretches the limits.
Right now I am very unhappy. I do not know what the appropriate action to take is. Do I leave him as he is not doing the things he said he would or following through on things and I feel miserable all the time? Or do I stick it out as leaving would be damaging to the children?
He's a good father, but our relationship is faltering. Even with counselling, he refused to do what the counsellor suggested because he didn't agree with it. I am at a loss.
I DO love him, but I am not willing to be a doormat and play second fiddle to another woman for the rest of my life. I want a partner whose loyalites lie with me and our family (which includes his daughter).
Advice is appreciated. Thank you everyone.How to deal with your current partner and their ex?
IMO...make arrangements to leave and find a way to raise your child separately.
The flat out worst thing you can do is bring this type of environment to your child, as you appear to be helpless and the frustration/angst between the two of you will continue to grow in the present household.
You both have attended counseling, and a professional with no ties to this relationship has suggested something to this man and he refuses to do it. What does that tell you? This counselor has nothing to gain and in fact, if the relationship were to get better, the both of you would be inclined to see him more...I know this through experience.
I am sorry to say this, but until this individual decides to accomodate some of the sensitivities that you have, you will only become more and more hurt and frustrated, your child will see this, and your child will grow up witnessing an abusive household.How to deal with your current partner and their ex?
unfortunately the ex will never go away. I think it is better if they are friends, but you should be included, so you don't feel insecure. The lie would bother me. I can see why he said that though, he didn't want to scare you away at the beginning, but it's time to get that divorce settled.
it sounds like you already know what the answer is and you just need somebody to validate your feelings. if he is not cooperating with counseling then there is nothing you can do. it sounds like you are putting more of an effort into fixing the relationship than he is and thats not fair. you deserve to feel like a priority in a mans life and it is time for you to quit wasting time with this guy and find someone who treats you right so you can start a life with them. there is no such thing as staying together for the kids when you are miserable, that doesnt make them happy
You say you don't want to be a doormat but somehow - HOW?! - you have no problem creating circs that turn your children into floorcloths! How is it that you are unable or unwilling to see the harm your selfish whelping poses to the innocents? Clearly, husband is unwilling to follow through on obligations he undertook during counselling and if you stay you show him that's OK with you. You're precisely where you were before you left, yet strangely, your answer to the dilemma is procreation! Of all things! What are you using for brains and a heart, one wonders? Hurry and pack your bags before the number of victims of this unfortunate relationship increases any further and make appt with a new therapist/counsellor to find out why you think more sex is an answer to fundamental marital discord.
Strange how neither you nor his ex mind this guy making fools of you. Why is that, I wonder? Does he purposely seek partners so damaged they'll put up with anything?
Hurry! Pack up!
He lied to you, and he shouldn't have. You need to tell him tomorrow is Monday...he has until Friday to make a huge effort to finalize the divorce. There needs to be a court date....he needs to come up with a custody agreement (his side of it anyway), he needs to get this moving. If he does not, then Friday you will start considering other things (such as moving out and filing for child support when your baby is born) because you deserve better than this. You won't be lied to and treated like crap. He knocked you up, and he is going to take responsibility for his actions.
Leave him. He lied to you in a very fundamental way. He can tell you all he wants that ';because they were separated for 4 years and they're divorced in his eyes.'; That argument has a hole the size of Cleveland in it. Legally, he is still married - who really cares what he thinks? - and on a practical level, anyone who hasn't completed a divorce in 4 years has more issues than a shelf full of National Geographics.
Bluntly, he is still married to her for a reason. And what's worse is, you know it.
Staying with him is damaging to YOU. And the children. So don't kid yourself that swallowing your misery every day is a good and noble sacrifice. He has told you clearly by his actions that that he is going to do exactly what he wants to do. You know you just don't matter. You also know what you deserve, which is someone who wants you as much as you want them.
You know your only choice is to leave. I can see it. You just need someone else to see what you see. I do. Please don't argue with him anymore. Just don't waste your time. He lied from the beginning, in the most fundamental way possible, for his own selfish and narcissistic purposes. I'm so sorry - but it doesn't change the situation. Keep smiling - but run, and keep running.
first off all your probably not going get out of it if its his daughter you just have to learn how to handle it because if you ask him to choice you or your daughter its probably gonna be his daughter but sense you have a son together i know its complicated but if you love him you will stay by his side trust me i just got away from my husbands crazy ex it was hell
Omg girl I imagine how u feel. I would try talking to him again and express how much he is hurting you. He has to understand that its not okay to have that kind of relationship with his ex. he needs to have communication with her because of their daughter but no need to be bffs or he should really analize his feelings if he still loves her he needs to let u go and stop hurting u. I agree with u about not having. Kids at least not right now. If u have tried different methods to try to solve the problem and he won't bother to try any of them he's not even making an effort honestly what do u think it means................I don't think he loves u. I know that's not what u want to hear but I know u want everyone to be honest .
I hope I'm wrong and after u talk to him things get better.
Good luck girl.
Just because 2 people get a divorce does not mean they have to nasty to one another they have a child together and until the child is atleast 18 yrs old he will always have to communicate with that child's mother so why not be civil towards each other ...You will drive this man away if you are not careful ..I can see you are very immature jealous person ,And one more thing you will always be second fiddleinternet security short hair cut
When we first got together, he stated he was divorced. He was actually only separated, which I found out 2 months into my pregnancy. His reason for not telling me was that he doesn't see a difference as they have been separated for 4 years (at the time) and therefore are divorced in his eyes.
We went through many issues throughout our relationship and I left him in January of this year. I moved back in in August after 4 months of intensive counselling and affirmations from him that he would cut back on his friendship with his ex wife (they surpass the ';normal'; ex relationship by maintaining a friendship out side the parameters of their daughter). I am highly uncomfortable with the nature of their relationship as it impacts our family life on a consistent basis. In addition he had promised to finalize the divorce so that we could get married (we also want another child, but I am adamant that we be married first).
Today we got in a big arguement as he has not completed these tasks. The divorce is still not finalized (it's the end of October) and he is still friendly with her in a manner that makes me uncomfortable. I want a positive relationship between them for the sake of his daughter, but the friendship stretches the limits.
Right now I am very unhappy. I do not know what the appropriate action to take is. Do I leave him as he is not doing the things he said he would or following through on things and I feel miserable all the time? Or do I stick it out as leaving would be damaging to the children?
He's a good father, but our relationship is faltering. Even with counselling, he refused to do what the counsellor suggested because he didn't agree with it. I am at a loss.
I DO love him, but I am not willing to be a doormat and play second fiddle to another woman for the rest of my life. I want a partner whose loyalites lie with me and our family (which includes his daughter).
Advice is appreciated. Thank you everyone.How to deal with your current partner and their ex?
IMO...make arrangements to leave and find a way to raise your child separately.
The flat out worst thing you can do is bring this type of environment to your child, as you appear to be helpless and the frustration/angst between the two of you will continue to grow in the present household.
You both have attended counseling, and a professional with no ties to this relationship has suggested something to this man and he refuses to do it. What does that tell you? This counselor has nothing to gain and in fact, if the relationship were to get better, the both of you would be inclined to see him more...I know this through experience.
I am sorry to say this, but until this individual decides to accomodate some of the sensitivities that you have, you will only become more and more hurt and frustrated, your child will see this, and your child will grow up witnessing an abusive household.How to deal with your current partner and their ex?
unfortunately the ex will never go away. I think it is better if they are friends, but you should be included, so you don't feel insecure. The lie would bother me. I can see why he said that though, he didn't want to scare you away at the beginning, but it's time to get that divorce settled.
it sounds like you already know what the answer is and you just need somebody to validate your feelings. if he is not cooperating with counseling then there is nothing you can do. it sounds like you are putting more of an effort into fixing the relationship than he is and thats not fair. you deserve to feel like a priority in a mans life and it is time for you to quit wasting time with this guy and find someone who treats you right so you can start a life with them. there is no such thing as staying together for the kids when you are miserable, that doesnt make them happy
You say you don't want to be a doormat but somehow - HOW?! - you have no problem creating circs that turn your children into floorcloths! How is it that you are unable or unwilling to see the harm your selfish whelping poses to the innocents? Clearly, husband is unwilling to follow through on obligations he undertook during counselling and if you stay you show him that's OK with you. You're precisely where you were before you left, yet strangely, your answer to the dilemma is procreation! Of all things! What are you using for brains and a heart, one wonders? Hurry and pack your bags before the number of victims of this unfortunate relationship increases any further and make appt with a new therapist/counsellor to find out why you think more sex is an answer to fundamental marital discord.
Strange how neither you nor his ex mind this guy making fools of you. Why is that, I wonder? Does he purposely seek partners so damaged they'll put up with anything?
Hurry! Pack up!
He lied to you, and he shouldn't have. You need to tell him tomorrow is Monday...he has until Friday to make a huge effort to finalize the divorce. There needs to be a court date....he needs to come up with a custody agreement (his side of it anyway), he needs to get this moving. If he does not, then Friday you will start considering other things (such as moving out and filing for child support when your baby is born) because you deserve better than this. You won't be lied to and treated like crap. He knocked you up, and he is going to take responsibility for his actions.
Leave him. He lied to you in a very fundamental way. He can tell you all he wants that ';because they were separated for 4 years and they're divorced in his eyes.'; That argument has a hole the size of Cleveland in it. Legally, he is still married - who really cares what he thinks? - and on a practical level, anyone who hasn't completed a divorce in 4 years has more issues than a shelf full of National Geographics.
Bluntly, he is still married to her for a reason. And what's worse is, you know it.
Staying with him is damaging to YOU. And the children. So don't kid yourself that swallowing your misery every day is a good and noble sacrifice. He has told you clearly by his actions that that he is going to do exactly what he wants to do. You know you just don't matter. You also know what you deserve, which is someone who wants you as much as you want them.
You know your only choice is to leave. I can see it. You just need someone else to see what you see. I do. Please don't argue with him anymore. Just don't waste your time. He lied from the beginning, in the most fundamental way possible, for his own selfish and narcissistic purposes. I'm so sorry - but it doesn't change the situation. Keep smiling - but run, and keep running.
first off all your probably not going get out of it if its his daughter you just have to learn how to handle it because if you ask him to choice you or your daughter its probably gonna be his daughter but sense you have a son together i know its complicated but if you love him you will stay by his side trust me i just got away from my husbands crazy ex it was hell
Omg girl I imagine how u feel. I would try talking to him again and express how much he is hurting you. He has to understand that its not okay to have that kind of relationship with his ex. he needs to have communication with her because of their daughter but no need to be bffs or he should really analize his feelings if he still loves her he needs to let u go and stop hurting u. I agree with u about not having. Kids at least not right now. If u have tried different methods to try to solve the problem and he won't bother to try any of them he's not even making an effort honestly what do u think it means................I don't think he loves u. I know that's not what u want to hear but I know u want everyone to be honest .
I hope I'm wrong and after u talk to him things get better.
Good luck girl.
Just because 2 people get a divorce does not mean they have to nasty to one another they have a child together and until the child is atleast 18 yrs old he will always have to communicate with that child's mother so why not be civil towards each other ...You will drive this man away if you are not careful ..I can see you are very immature jealous person ,And one more thing you will always be second fiddle
Is it normal to realize you still have feelings for your ex hubby when you find out he is about to remarry?
I really thought I was over him, and have gone on with my life and have been pretty happy. I just found out not to long ago that he is getting married this summer, and I'm actually upset about . We have 2 kids together and have been divorced for 6 years. I too have remarried and love my husband very much and really feel guilty about the way I feel, and ofcourse can't talk to anyone about my feelings about this. I realize that I still have very strong feelings for him, and I really would like some advice about how I should deal with this............thanks so much to all that answer!!Is it normal to realize you still have feelings for your ex hubby when you find out he is about to remarry?
Its normal...MOVE ON!!!!!!!!!!
2ptsIs it normal to realize you still have feelings for your ex hubby when you find out he is about to remarry?
It's perfectly normal for you to feel this way. After all, you spent years together and he is the mother of your children. I think it's part of the ';letting go'; we need to do after a divorce. This is the final goodbye to the relationship and you realize he is moving on and making a permanent home with another woman. Just acknowledge your feelings and know that you have a loving husband and family and your ex-husband wants that for himself as well. This is part of our personal growth - it's a hard part and I'm sure you will take some time to come to terms with it, but I wish you the best in your marriage and future.
God's blessings.
Girl, You need to get over him. I dont think that you still love him because you realized it when you found out that he's getting married again. Its a normal feeling to have but you cant stop him from getting married, specially because you remarried yourself. Let him live happy with his fiance since you have already found some one else.
Jealousy works that way. You feel devalued, even when such is not the case.
Even though you two divorced 6 yrs ago, it only really becomes final when one or the other moves on with his life. ( Takes a partner). You are feeling exactly what he probably felt when you got remarrid. Its normal, and of course you still have feelings. This is the father of your children. Be happy that he has found happiness as you have. You will always love him and that is why it hurts. ( Subconsiously he was still yours, but now The door has closed permanantly.)
This is very normal, you spent part of your life with this man and had two children.....
u just think that u have feelings for him.... u remarried so u moved on.... its kind of like this when someones says u can't have something u want it even more..... that what it is.... so don't worry about it.
once you loved someone they will forever be part of you.
think of the reason way you broke up with him and that will help you get though it.
IT is normal to have some feelings for that man. You shared you life with him for a while. You are emotionally attached to him because of that. Now you share your life with someone else. You must work to make this relationship greater then your last marriage.
If we learn from our mistakes, and apply them to our lives today to make our tomorrow better then our lives can become great.
Hold on to your present husband and love him like you wish you loved your ex. Make this marriage count, when you do this over time those feelings for your ex will grow smaller and smaller as the feelings for your now great husband grow greater and greater.
Best of luck
yes its normal
YOU DIVORCED HIM FOR A REASON.
NOW THINK ABOUT THAT.
IT'S OVER, LET HIM STAY GONE.
This is very normal because it takes time to get over someone completely and not love them that way and care about them as a spouse anymore... You can talk to me about this and you also may need counseling and help to get past the feelings for your first marriage and focus on this one.
Wait until the wedding, then basically throw yourself at him! Plead to take you back! It works in movies!
Oh my yes! Even if you have no desire to have him back. It is just the finality of it all. I went through the same thing. It goes away pretty quickly after you come to your senses!
I think it is normal. I am not so sure that it is due to the fact that you still have true feelings for your ex, or if it is because you feel ';replaced';. This is such a common thing. My best friend went through it too. She started thinking she still had feelings for her ex, but in reality she was just upset that he had found someone to replace her. ALL women want to feel special and irreplaceable. That is fact, so think long and hard about what your true feelings are before you ruin the relationship you are currently in.
typical---u want what u can't have
You never miss the water until the well runs DRY.
I think it is normal, i guess. I was married to my wife and mother of my child for 7years almost, and i found out she was cheating on me, and eventually left me for him...well that relationship did not last, and now she has a new boyfriend. I have to see her almost every other day, because I go see my son at her house.She does not live w/ her bf. And when i see her bf's go to her house to see her and stuff, I still feel jealous, but I try not to show it in front of her, but when i leave, it hurts a bit. So i think it is normal.And i always wish her the best w/ her bf's but inside i really don't.
Its normal...MOVE ON!!!!!!!!!!
2ptsIs it normal to realize you still have feelings for your ex hubby when you find out he is about to remarry?
It's perfectly normal for you to feel this way. After all, you spent years together and he is the mother of your children. I think it's part of the ';letting go'; we need to do after a divorce. This is the final goodbye to the relationship and you realize he is moving on and making a permanent home with another woman. Just acknowledge your feelings and know that you have a loving husband and family and your ex-husband wants that for himself as well. This is part of our personal growth - it's a hard part and I'm sure you will take some time to come to terms with it, but I wish you the best in your marriage and future.
God's blessings.
Girl, You need to get over him. I dont think that you still love him because you realized it when you found out that he's getting married again. Its a normal feeling to have but you cant stop him from getting married, specially because you remarried yourself. Let him live happy with his fiance since you have already found some one else.
Jealousy works that way. You feel devalued, even when such is not the case.
Even though you two divorced 6 yrs ago, it only really becomes final when one or the other moves on with his life. ( Takes a partner). You are feeling exactly what he probably felt when you got remarrid. Its normal, and of course you still have feelings. This is the father of your children. Be happy that he has found happiness as you have. You will always love him and that is why it hurts. ( Subconsiously he was still yours, but now The door has closed permanantly.)
This is very normal, you spent part of your life with this man and had two children.....
u just think that u have feelings for him.... u remarried so u moved on.... its kind of like this when someones says u can't have something u want it even more..... that what it is.... so don't worry about it.
once you loved someone they will forever be part of you.
think of the reason way you broke up with him and that will help you get though it.
IT is normal to have some feelings for that man. You shared you life with him for a while. You are emotionally attached to him because of that. Now you share your life with someone else. You must work to make this relationship greater then your last marriage.
If we learn from our mistakes, and apply them to our lives today to make our tomorrow better then our lives can become great.
Hold on to your present husband and love him like you wish you loved your ex. Make this marriage count, when you do this over time those feelings for your ex will grow smaller and smaller as the feelings for your now great husband grow greater and greater.
Best of luck
yes its normal
YOU DIVORCED HIM FOR A REASON.
NOW THINK ABOUT THAT.
IT'S OVER, LET HIM STAY GONE.
This is very normal because it takes time to get over someone completely and not love them that way and care about them as a spouse anymore... You can talk to me about this and you also may need counseling and help to get past the feelings for your first marriage and focus on this one.
Wait until the wedding, then basically throw yourself at him! Plead to take you back! It works in movies!
Oh my yes! Even if you have no desire to have him back. It is just the finality of it all. I went through the same thing. It goes away pretty quickly after you come to your senses!
I think it is normal. I am not so sure that it is due to the fact that you still have true feelings for your ex, or if it is because you feel ';replaced';. This is such a common thing. My best friend went through it too. She started thinking she still had feelings for her ex, but in reality she was just upset that he had found someone to replace her. ALL women want to feel special and irreplaceable. That is fact, so think long and hard about what your true feelings are before you ruin the relationship you are currently in.
typical---u want what u can't have
You never miss the water until the well runs DRY.
I think it is normal, i guess. I was married to my wife and mother of my child for 7years almost, and i found out she was cheating on me, and eventually left me for him...well that relationship did not last, and now she has a new boyfriend. I have to see her almost every other day, because I go see my son at her house.She does not live w/ her bf. And when i see her bf's go to her house to see her and stuff, I still feel jealous, but I try not to show it in front of her, but when i leave, it hurts a bit. So i think it is normal.And i always wish her the best w/ her bf's but inside i really don't.
How do you deal with your current lover wanting you to see her ex?
It is ok to be weirded out by this?How do you deal with your current lover wanting you to see her ex?
are you lesbian?How do you deal with your current lover wanting you to see her ex?
I'm not quite sure I understand your question. Do you mean
1)your lover wants you to see her ex as in just look at her?
2)as in go out as friends with her?
3)Or as in get it on with her?!
4)OR your lover wants to see her ex again?
If it's:
1), then your new lover probably just wants you to see who she used to be with. Make the ex jealous because you're better!
2) I probably wouldn't want to go out as friends with my lover's ex. I would be weirded out by this.
3) If your lover wants you to get with her ex, then it's a bit weird
4) I would say bye :(
i wouldn't like that much
Wonder why she is thinking about him at all. Bad gf.
sound freaky, be careful, something is fishy.
Do you mean that your current lover has remained friends with the ex and wants you to get to know the ex? If that's the case, I don't see any problem with it. We all have a past. And sometimes part of that past stays with us. Sometimes we're able to keep ex-lovers as friends. We shouldn't be expected to give them up once we enter a new relationship. Just as they shouldn't expect us to give up our exes-turned-friends when we get into a new relationship. Anyone who would demand that of me doesn't know me or trust me at all. And I wouldn't want to be with someone like that.
Are you talking about see them as in hook up in a three way or just meet them socially? How long did they go out? How long ago did they break up etc?
I would not mind meeting someone socially at a party (bumping into) who used to date my wife. But I would not want my wife to set up a meeting to meet one of her exs.
Sorta weird.
no - unless you want them to go straight back then you should be cool about it
NO need to...and why should that even be up for discussion..UNLESS they have children together...and you will be around them...
I'd say ';adios';...she's got no dignity and no respect for you.
She wants a threesome. Go for it.
what are your ground rules for your relationship? as for me i have an open relationship, meaning i am in love with my partner, but if my partner wants to go out %26amp; ';play'; its fine, as long as my partner comes back home. -blurey
Maybe she wants to make him jealous? It shouldn't worry you if you're in a stable, healthy relationship.
I'm really weirded out by this.
but i say let her but let her know that u dont like the fact that she wants to see her ex
are you lesbian?How do you deal with your current lover wanting you to see her ex?
I'm not quite sure I understand your question. Do you mean
1)your lover wants you to see her ex as in just look at her?
2)as in go out as friends with her?
3)Or as in get it on with her?!
4)OR your lover wants to see her ex again?
If it's:
1), then your new lover probably just wants you to see who she used to be with. Make the ex jealous because you're better!
2) I probably wouldn't want to go out as friends with my lover's ex. I would be weirded out by this.
3) If your lover wants you to get with her ex, then it's a bit weird
4) I would say bye :(
i wouldn't like that much
Wonder why she is thinking about him at all. Bad gf.
sound freaky, be careful, something is fishy.
Do you mean that your current lover has remained friends with the ex and wants you to get to know the ex? If that's the case, I don't see any problem with it. We all have a past. And sometimes part of that past stays with us. Sometimes we're able to keep ex-lovers as friends. We shouldn't be expected to give them up once we enter a new relationship. Just as they shouldn't expect us to give up our exes-turned-friends when we get into a new relationship. Anyone who would demand that of me doesn't know me or trust me at all. And I wouldn't want to be with someone like that.
Are you talking about see them as in hook up in a three way or just meet them socially? How long did they go out? How long ago did they break up etc?
I would not mind meeting someone socially at a party (bumping into) who used to date my wife. But I would not want my wife to set up a meeting to meet one of her exs.
Sorta weird.
no - unless you want them to go straight back then you should be cool about it
NO need to...and why should that even be up for discussion..UNLESS they have children together...and you will be around them...
I'd say ';adios';...she's got no dignity and no respect for you.
She wants a threesome. Go for it.
what are your ground rules for your relationship? as for me i have an open relationship, meaning i am in love with my partner, but if my partner wants to go out %26amp; ';play'; its fine, as long as my partner comes back home. -blurey
Maybe she wants to make him jealous? It shouldn't worry you if you're in a stable, healthy relationship.
I'm really weirded out by this.
but i say let her but let her know that u dont like the fact that she wants to see her ex
How long did it take you to get over an ex or break-up?
I was with my ex for eight years and he decided to cheat and leave me for someone else, It sucks cuz he's already moved on and happy and I'm still sad and in disbelief about the whole thing. So I want to know from people who have experienced break-ups how long it took you to get over your ex, how long you were with them, what you did to get over them, and how did you deal if your significant other cheated on you and left you for that person?How long did it take you to get over an ex or break-up?
Until you can find closure to the whole thing and find someone else, you will be able to get over it.How long did it take you to get over an ex or break-up?
My ex and I were only together a year (compared to your 8), and it has been about nine months since he broke up with me. I'm over our break-up, but still not completely over him. We speak on a friend basis now and I will always love him. He tells me he loves me (just not in ';that way';) which makes the situation even worse. I think you may not completely get over him. A part of you will always still love him, but your sensible part will tell you that you deserve better and he didn't deserve you in the first place. I know it's hard, and it will hurt, but I think you will be fine. Good luck! Remember that everything happens for a reason and what doesn't kill us makes us stronger!
For be it's been an average of (2) years since when I love, I give everything I have.
I do not regret it since it is the only way to experience love. Also you must hurt to know happiness...
As long as it took to locate an apartment.
It depended on the guy. Sometimes six months, sometimes a year, and there was one guy I obsessed about for almost ten years.
take the amount of months you dated and divide by two and thats how long it should take.. unless u 2 still hook up
which is a bad idea cause he will have his cake and eat it too and remember, time heals all.
you're not alone..
i was cheated on too--sad news, at first i didn't care.
but after a while i really missed him, to the extreme...
i found out that he was lying to be through are whole relationship--depressing stuff, but he still likes me
[which is kinda creepy] so i tease him and flirt like crazy with him..hehe
Well, I had a boyfriend and he cheated on me, it was nothing major, but it got to me, so it took me about a month, then we got back together, but it just wasn't the same, so after that, another month and a half because I was devastated that I knew it could never be the same again =/
2 years..yes 2 years!
we broke up bec. he
simply cheated!
it hurts alot, but with
the help of my gurl friends,
i learned to move on!
its been half a year b4
i get over him..
its sucks!really!
how?
bec. i felt that im so
god damn beautiful
inside and out and i
DONT DESERVED to
be cheated.,:b
he tried to talked to
me to fix it, but i said
i wanted to but the trust
will never go back.
without the trust, the
relationship will never
work out..
Until I found the next one.
I was broken hearted....devastated....I didn't know what to do.
Then, after about a month, I found the woman that ended up being my wife. That was 17 years ago and we've been happily married ever since.
I, now, realize how foolish I was to be so devastated about a girl who, obviously, didn't feel anything for me.
I wasn't, necessarily, looking for love. It just happened. Sometimes, love comes along when you least expect it.
10 months and counting.... we were together almost 2 years. yes he was a cheater but thats not why we broke up. expect a long hard road. hang in there.
IDK
as long as it took for them to walk out the door... because I know that if they were gone then it wasn't ment to be and that I will find the right person one day... which I already have.
I was dating my ex for 5 years. He didn't CHEAT ... but he was climbing up the ladder. We have been off and on for a year because I couldn't trust him and although he is truly sorry for what he did and people make mistakes.. we both weren't sure if we could ever mend the damage he caused to our relationship. I broke up with him at the end of Dec in 07 we are still apart... but were thinking of trying to work things out.. so im not over my ex.But I can give you some advice.
In every situation it's different and getting over your ex varies from person to person. I suggest, keep yourself occupied, forcing yourself not to do weak things like; calling him, looking through your pictures, force yourself not to think about him. Even try dating. That's the only thing you can really do. There's no one cure really for a broken heart.. but I hoped I helped.
about 4 months. it just depends on how you can motivate yourself to not think about them. and also how much you really loved them.
I have heard from many different sources that it takes about half the time you spent together, to get over someone.
Not necessarily true, but that's what I heard : )
Until you can find closure to the whole thing and find someone else, you will be able to get over it.How long did it take you to get over an ex or break-up?
My ex and I were only together a year (compared to your 8), and it has been about nine months since he broke up with me. I'm over our break-up, but still not completely over him. We speak on a friend basis now and I will always love him. He tells me he loves me (just not in ';that way';) which makes the situation even worse. I think you may not completely get over him. A part of you will always still love him, but your sensible part will tell you that you deserve better and he didn't deserve you in the first place. I know it's hard, and it will hurt, but I think you will be fine. Good luck! Remember that everything happens for a reason and what doesn't kill us makes us stronger!
For be it's been an average of (2) years since when I love, I give everything I have.
I do not regret it since it is the only way to experience love. Also you must hurt to know happiness...
As long as it took to locate an apartment.
It depended on the guy. Sometimes six months, sometimes a year, and there was one guy I obsessed about for almost ten years.
take the amount of months you dated and divide by two and thats how long it should take.. unless u 2 still hook up
which is a bad idea cause he will have his cake and eat it too and remember, time heals all.
you're not alone..
i was cheated on too--sad news, at first i didn't care.
but after a while i really missed him, to the extreme...
i found out that he was lying to be through are whole relationship--depressing stuff, but he still likes me
[which is kinda creepy] so i tease him and flirt like crazy with him..hehe
Well, I had a boyfriend and he cheated on me, it was nothing major, but it got to me, so it took me about a month, then we got back together, but it just wasn't the same, so after that, another month and a half because I was devastated that I knew it could never be the same again =/
2 years..yes 2 years!
we broke up bec. he
simply cheated!
it hurts alot, but with
the help of my gurl friends,
i learned to move on!
its been half a year b4
i get over him..
its sucks!really!
how?
bec. i felt that im so
god damn beautiful
inside and out and i
DONT DESERVED to
be cheated.,:b
he tried to talked to
me to fix it, but i said
i wanted to but the trust
will never go back.
without the trust, the
relationship will never
work out..
Until I found the next one.
I was broken hearted....devastated....I didn't know what to do.
Then, after about a month, I found the woman that ended up being my wife. That was 17 years ago and we've been happily married ever since.
I, now, realize how foolish I was to be so devastated about a girl who, obviously, didn't feel anything for me.
I wasn't, necessarily, looking for love. It just happened. Sometimes, love comes along when you least expect it.
10 months and counting.... we were together almost 2 years. yes he was a cheater but thats not why we broke up. expect a long hard road. hang in there.
IDK
as long as it took for them to walk out the door... because I know that if they were gone then it wasn't ment to be and that I will find the right person one day... which I already have.
I was dating my ex for 5 years. He didn't CHEAT ... but he was climbing up the ladder. We have been off and on for a year because I couldn't trust him and although he is truly sorry for what he did and people make mistakes.. we both weren't sure if we could ever mend the damage he caused to our relationship. I broke up with him at the end of Dec in 07 we are still apart... but were thinking of trying to work things out.. so im not over my ex.But I can give you some advice.
In every situation it's different and getting over your ex varies from person to person. I suggest, keep yourself occupied, forcing yourself not to do weak things like; calling him, looking through your pictures, force yourself not to think about him. Even try dating. That's the only thing you can really do. There's no one cure really for a broken heart.. but I hoped I helped.
about 4 months. it just depends on how you can motivate yourself to not think about them. and also how much you really loved them.
I have heard from many different sources that it takes about half the time you spent together, to get over someone.
Not necessarily true, but that's what I heard : )
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If your child(ren) live with your ex (either full-time or in a joint custody arrangement), how would you feel if your ex got a roommate? What conditions/expectations would you have for your ex choosing a roommate?
If you currently have a roommate (not including girlfriend/boyfriend), how did your child(ren) deal with the new living arrangement? What did you do to help them adjust?Single parents - Are roommates okay to live with your child(ren)?
no,,no,,, and if you didnt catch that,,no,,,,,,,no non nonononon nonoSingle parents - Are roommates okay to live with your child(ren)?
i wouldnt allow strangers around my daughter.
there's too many sickos in this world. u cant trust n e body!
If your child(ren) live with your ex (either full-time or in a joint custody arrangement), how would you feel if your ex got a roommate? What conditions/expectations would you have for your ex choosing a roommate?
If you currently have a roommate (not including girlfriend/boyfriend), how did your child(ren) deal with the new living arrangement? What did you do to help them adjust?Single parents - Are roommates okay to live with your child(ren)?
no,,no,,, and if you didnt catch that,,no,,,,,,,no non nonononon nonoSingle parents - Are roommates okay to live with your child(ren)?
i wouldnt allow strangers around my daughter.
there's too many sickos in this world. u cant trust n e body!
Do you keep photos of your ex once you're in a new relationship? ?
A. Yes. They are part of my memories and shouldn't threaten my new Love.And if he/she is,they are insecure and I probably should dump them for that or I just dont care how my partner feels and I want things my way.
B. Yes ... but the photos stay hidden away in a shoebox in my closet because I understand that this is my personal past which I have a right to as well as my partner but I also respect my partners feelings whether offended or not and I do care about my partner and understand its natural to possibly feel unfortable to have to deal with an ex in anyway including having to see photos,gifts etc.
C. No. I've moved on and keeping them is disrespectful to my partner period.
Do you keep photos of your ex once you're in a new relationship? ?
A mixture of A and B for me. They're your past and your memories. if someone is going to make you dump photos of your ex, they mind as well erase your memories.Do you keep photos of your ex once you're in a new relationship? ?
umm...mine doesn't fit into the choices...i burned my ex's picture like 10 minutes after he dumped me (at 1 in the morning btw). i didn't want anything to do with him anymore. i wanted to rid him from my life completely. after that i deleted his number from my phone and all the texts he ever sent me. i tried to get rid of everything that reminded me of him, stuff he gave me, etc.
I'd say B. I don't want to throw out things that are memories for me. My ex may be an ex, but that doesn't mean the entire time I was with him was horrible. Throwing them out would mean I regretted the past, which I don't.
Hell no! An ex is an ex for a reason. Why keep reminders around? So you can remember how much they hurt you? Pffffft! Throw that **** out.
B. However if they are accidently located by the new partner explain and reassure they are part of the past. If not throw them out to prove the point
B. Just a memory for myself and not wanting to do anything to affect the new relationship
C C C C C
All the way!
b.
b !!
B. Yes ... but the photos stay hidden away in a shoebox in my closet because I understand that this is my personal past which I have a right to as well as my partner but I also respect my partners feelings whether offended or not and I do care about my partner and understand its natural to possibly feel unfortable to have to deal with an ex in anyway including having to see photos,gifts etc.
C. No. I've moved on and keeping them is disrespectful to my partner period.
Do you keep photos of your ex once you're in a new relationship? ?
A mixture of A and B for me. They're your past and your memories. if someone is going to make you dump photos of your ex, they mind as well erase your memories.Do you keep photos of your ex once you're in a new relationship? ?
umm...mine doesn't fit into the choices...i burned my ex's picture like 10 minutes after he dumped me (at 1 in the morning btw). i didn't want anything to do with him anymore. i wanted to rid him from my life completely. after that i deleted his number from my phone and all the texts he ever sent me. i tried to get rid of everything that reminded me of him, stuff he gave me, etc.
I'd say B. I don't want to throw out things that are memories for me. My ex may be an ex, but that doesn't mean the entire time I was with him was horrible. Throwing them out would mean I regretted the past, which I don't.
Hell no! An ex is an ex for a reason. Why keep reminders around? So you can remember how much they hurt you? Pffffft! Throw that **** out.
B. However if they are accidently located by the new partner explain and reassure they are part of the past. If not throw them out to prove the point
B. Just a memory for myself and not wanting to do anything to affect the new relationship
C C C C C
All the way!
b.
b !!
How to deal with a ex bf that likes your bff?
he likes her so much he wants me to ask her out for him!How to deal with a ex bf that likes your bff?
If she is really a bff then you have nothing to worry about. A real friend would never date your ex. I would tell him that you wont ask her for him because you don't want to be in the middle of anything.How to deal with a ex bf that likes your bff?
First off if he wants you to ask her out for him then he needs to mature a bit more. Second, it sounds like you and him are still somewhat friends so I see no problem with them dating. Ultimately it will be up to them if they do or not and as their friend, you should be happy for them. Be there for your friends.
How to deal with a ex bf that likes your bff?
he likes her so much he wants me to ask her out for him!
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IM SO CONFUSED!
your ex boy-friend likes you boy-friend-friend's?
he likes her. so your boy-friends friend is a female and he wants you to ask her out. whats the problem again?
I know how you feel! I had a similar problem a few years ago. Asking her out for him is weird; why is he too afraid to ask her himself? If I were you, I'd talk to your bff about it and tell her what the problem is/how it makes you feel. Probs she will listen to you and tell him no.
wow so want u think u sod do
me: if i was u i well mack hem happy and do it
you:i want in yr heart that tell u what to do
i follow my feelings or my heart
wat do yr heart tell u want to do
that would be super weird for me and i wouldnt do it, but if your okay with them being together, then go ahead and ask her for him.
punch him in da face den punch ur bff
in da face
Tell Him Straight... Do it your self or Nothing....internet security short hair cut
If she is really a bff then you have nothing to worry about. A real friend would never date your ex. I would tell him that you wont ask her for him because you don't want to be in the middle of anything.How to deal with a ex bf that likes your bff?
First off if he wants you to ask her out for him then he needs to mature a bit more. Second, it sounds like you and him are still somewhat friends so I see no problem with them dating. Ultimately it will be up to them if they do or not and as their friend, you should be happy for them. Be there for your friends.
How to deal with a ex bf that likes your bff?
he likes her so much he wants me to ask her out for him!
--
IM SO CONFUSED!
your ex boy-friend likes you boy-friend-friend's?
he likes her. so your boy-friends friend is a female and he wants you to ask her out. whats the problem again?
I know how you feel! I had a similar problem a few years ago. Asking her out for him is weird; why is he too afraid to ask her himself? If I were you, I'd talk to your bff about it and tell her what the problem is/how it makes you feel. Probs she will listen to you and tell him no.
wow so want u think u sod do
me: if i was u i well mack hem happy and do it
you:i want in yr heart that tell u what to do
i follow my feelings or my heart
wat do yr heart tell u want to do
that would be super weird for me and i wouldnt do it, but if your okay with them being together, then go ahead and ask her for him.
punch him in da face den punch ur bff
in da face
Tell Him Straight... Do it your self or Nothing....
If your ex asked you to call them?
This girl dumped me almost five months ago. The other day through txt she said I should call her when I get a chance. I never did. What I don't get is how someone could ask the person they dumped to call them. Anyone ever deal with an ex like this that did the breaking up? How did you handle this stuff? The whole situation annoys the crap out of me, I don't like someone feeling like they're calling all the shots. She's almost 30 and I'm in my late 20's.If your ex asked you to call them?
maybe she wants to get back together dude go for it.
maybe she wants to get back together dude go for it.
If u knew that u hurt your ex boyfriend badly and found out later that he turned gay, would u feel guilty?
i know of 2 people that this has happened to for those of u that believe people are born to be gay. my moms uncle was going to get married and found out his woman slept with his best friend. later on he turned gay. i guess some people feel so hurt they cant deal with it and turn the opposite direction. but would u feel guilty? how would u react?If u knew that u hurt your ex boyfriend badly and found out later that he turned gay, would u feel guilty?
being gay is not a matter of ';turning'; gay its when things like that happen that people realize their own sexuality and that they may as well be better off with men then with women.If u knew that u hurt your ex boyfriend badly and found out later that he turned gay, would u feel guilty?
I'm not a chick, but knowing that you hurt somebody so terribly but they realized that they could no longer find any good in the opposite sex has to wear heavy on someone's conscience.
I'm not saying being gay is a bad thing, but to make someone completely give up on a sex is kind of nerve racking.
Of course, in case they're just experimenting, they've always been gay, but to be the one to make them finally realize that they have no interest in the opposite sex because you finally pushed them to realize it. Like holeemel said, you don't turn gay from being hurt by women, but you can realize your sexuality from figuring out you don't mend well with the opposite sex.
Sexual orientation is not a response to any one event. It is a lifestyle choice as well as the possible result of genetics, role modeling or the absence of it and early childhood learning experiences.
A woman sleeping with his best friend could not ';turn him'; gay. Do not blame yourself for that.
No. You don't just 'turn' gay because women have hurt you. That's a load of crap. You are naiive as hell if you think that has anything to do with the reality of being homosexual.
So no, I wouldn't feel guilty. I might feel like i had been deceived because he had been gay all along.
But you don't just turn gay, dude, if anyone tells you that they did, they are lying to you. That is preposterous. Are you like 12 years old or something?
i will tell you what i think about this so call turn gay thing i think this person was gay all along having sex with a women is not the reason there is no one can tell one way or another i would not feel guilty this is what this person choose to do.
no beceuse being gay dont happen becaeuse they got hurt! so dont feel bad!
being gay is not a matter of ';turning'; gay its when things like that happen that people realize their own sexuality and that they may as well be better off with men then with women.If u knew that u hurt your ex boyfriend badly and found out later that he turned gay, would u feel guilty?
I'm not a chick, but knowing that you hurt somebody so terribly but they realized that they could no longer find any good in the opposite sex has to wear heavy on someone's conscience.
I'm not saying being gay is a bad thing, but to make someone completely give up on a sex is kind of nerve racking.
Of course, in case they're just experimenting, they've always been gay, but to be the one to make them finally realize that they have no interest in the opposite sex because you finally pushed them to realize it. Like holeemel said, you don't turn gay from being hurt by women, but you can realize your sexuality from figuring out you don't mend well with the opposite sex.
Sexual orientation is not a response to any one event. It is a lifestyle choice as well as the possible result of genetics, role modeling or the absence of it and early childhood learning experiences.
A woman sleeping with his best friend could not ';turn him'; gay. Do not blame yourself for that.
No. You don't just 'turn' gay because women have hurt you. That's a load of crap. You are naiive as hell if you think that has anything to do with the reality of being homosexual.
So no, I wouldn't feel guilty. I might feel like i had been deceived because he had been gay all along.
But you don't just turn gay, dude, if anyone tells you that they did, they are lying to you. That is preposterous. Are you like 12 years old or something?
i will tell you what i think about this so call turn gay thing i think this person was gay all along having sex with a women is not the reason there is no one can tell one way or another i would not feel guilty this is what this person choose to do.
no beceuse being gay dont happen becaeuse they got hurt! so dont feel bad!
How to tell your ex-partner your getting married?
After 6 years living together we seperated on veteran's day. he cheated on me twice. i have decided to accept my best friends marriage proposal. we have been friends for over 10 years and i know we can have a wonderful marriage. we love each other and relationship. How do I tell my ex-partner that i am getting married with out hurting him more. Because of work we have to deal with each other at least once or twice a week. I still care about my ex-partner but I know that it will never work out. My best friend is a wonderful loving man who has been around waiting for me for almost 10 years.How to tell your ex-partner your getting married?
The only thing you can do is to tell him. Don't feel guilty - it is a reality that he has to face on his own - you're not trying to hurt him. He's a grown man. He'll be okay. Just enjoy n appreciate your faithful best friend.How to tell your ex-partner your getting married?
Hey I am getting Married!!
I am in the very same boat, I decided not to tell him though. I will let him find out on his own if he even does. I mean after all it isn't any of his business, now is it?!
*** i think the first chick who answered is right...just tell him. the thing i question tho' is...are u SURE about this marriage? i'm not saying he's not a great guy, and i'm not saying u shouldn't marry him. i'm just wondering... are u SURE?! you lived w/ your ex 6 yrs...it's been over since veterans day...and now BANG...you're marrying your friend?! i'm thinkin u might want a little time to breathe first. but hey, that's just me.
just be honest
First you must be honest with yourself. If you are that worried about it you must still have feelings for him. Think it over very carefully before you make a very big mistake. I don't think you need to be with someone that cheated on you but you don't need to marry someone that you don't truly love either.
just tell him.....be honest and not mean
just tell him. he'll find out sooner or later and it'll hurt him more if you don't tell him right away or he finds out from someone else.
All you can do is be honest with him and let the chips fall where they may.
I don't get the problem. Do you need to tell him anything?
Are you playing him? If he is a s close as you say he is to you as a friend, he would know this already.
What you do with your personal life is none of his business. Keep it that way.
u dont have to tell him. wait til he sees the ring or hears it thru grapevine at work.
Hmm, you are getting engaged right after getting out a relationship. I believe you are on the rebound ... you are probably using this to avoid the hurt he's given you -- since you stayed with him after being cheated on twice ... whoa
I say try being honest with yourself before you tell either man anything. You need to bring yourseld to reality before you try getting married.
I'm sure he will want you to be happy. I'd just tell him - straight out and see what he says. He's cheated on you, he can't expect you to wait on him.
Why do you care? You are marrying someone else. It is what they think that should matter, not the old boyfriend. Just tell him, or don't. It really isn't any of his business anyways.
Or...do you secretly hope that when you tell him he will tell you he still loves you and wants to marry you. If that is the case...seek professional help.
You could tell him by sending him a wedding invitation.
Dude I'm getting married.
I would question you getting engaged so quickly after ending a long term relationship. Make sure it's not a rebound thing..have a long engagement....IMHO
Why would you bother in telling him??...if you already move on from that relationship that obviously if he cheated on you twice was hurting you more, then put the past behind you and act like is none of his business...which isn't. If you make a big deal out of this ..he will probably think you have feelings for him and you are getting married just to get back to him!..
first of all...congrats on your marrige proposal...just one word of advice...if you still have feelings for you ex partner then the marrige is not going to work...i think you should just tell him becuase either way he is going to have to deal with loosing you...you might not talk for a couple weeks(dont be shocked by this) but you must wait till hes ready to accept that your gone and unavailable...i hope this advice helped...
Just be honest and tell him--that's the only to be.
you can simply tell him at work and if he cares about you he'll except the decision and be happy for you or you could just mail him the invitation (if he's invited)
why are worried of whats he thinks ??
Honesty is the best policy. Just tell him that you care about him but you know that nothing will ever happen between you two again and that you love your best friend. Tell him that you aren't trying to rub it in his face you just wanted to let him know.
just send him a card in the mail inviting him to your wedding!!! they dont reaaly care!!! trust me my father is broken up with my mom and my dad has two girlfriends right now!!!my mom think's he's retarded now!!!
Is it any of his business? Why would it bother him if it were your ex, and what would make you think he cared if he cheated on you twice? We didn't tell my husbands EX that cheated on him. He'll notice once you start signing your name ';Mrs. so and so.'; You don't have to tell him. You don't have to answer to him anymore, just your new husband!
The only thing you can do is to tell him. Don't feel guilty - it is a reality that he has to face on his own - you're not trying to hurt him. He's a grown man. He'll be okay. Just enjoy n appreciate your faithful best friend.How to tell your ex-partner your getting married?
Hey I am getting Married!!
I am in the very same boat, I decided not to tell him though. I will let him find out on his own if he even does. I mean after all it isn't any of his business, now is it?!
*** i think the first chick who answered is right...just tell him. the thing i question tho' is...are u SURE about this marriage? i'm not saying he's not a great guy, and i'm not saying u shouldn't marry him. i'm just wondering... are u SURE?! you lived w/ your ex 6 yrs...it's been over since veterans day...and now BANG...you're marrying your friend?! i'm thinkin u might want a little time to breathe first. but hey, that's just me.
just be honest
First you must be honest with yourself. If you are that worried about it you must still have feelings for him. Think it over very carefully before you make a very big mistake. I don't think you need to be with someone that cheated on you but you don't need to marry someone that you don't truly love either.
just tell him.....be honest and not mean
just tell him. he'll find out sooner or later and it'll hurt him more if you don't tell him right away or he finds out from someone else.
All you can do is be honest with him and let the chips fall where they may.
I don't get the problem. Do you need to tell him anything?
Are you playing him? If he is a s close as you say he is to you as a friend, he would know this already.
What you do with your personal life is none of his business. Keep it that way.
u dont have to tell him. wait til he sees the ring or hears it thru grapevine at work.
Hmm, you are getting engaged right after getting out a relationship. I believe you are on the rebound ... you are probably using this to avoid the hurt he's given you -- since you stayed with him after being cheated on twice ... whoa
I say try being honest with yourself before you tell either man anything. You need to bring yourseld to reality before you try getting married.
I'm sure he will want you to be happy. I'd just tell him - straight out and see what he says. He's cheated on you, he can't expect you to wait on him.
Why do you care? You are marrying someone else. It is what they think that should matter, not the old boyfriend. Just tell him, or don't. It really isn't any of his business anyways.
Or...do you secretly hope that when you tell him he will tell you he still loves you and wants to marry you. If that is the case...seek professional help.
You could tell him by sending him a wedding invitation.
Dude I'm getting married.
I would question you getting engaged so quickly after ending a long term relationship. Make sure it's not a rebound thing..have a long engagement....IMHO
Why would you bother in telling him??...if you already move on from that relationship that obviously if he cheated on you twice was hurting you more, then put the past behind you and act like is none of his business...which isn't. If you make a big deal out of this ..he will probably think you have feelings for him and you are getting married just to get back to him!..
first of all...congrats on your marrige proposal...just one word of advice...if you still have feelings for you ex partner then the marrige is not going to work...i think you should just tell him becuase either way he is going to have to deal with loosing you...you might not talk for a couple weeks(dont be shocked by this) but you must wait till hes ready to accept that your gone and unavailable...i hope this advice helped...
Just be honest and tell him--that's the only to be.
you can simply tell him at work and if he cares about you he'll except the decision and be happy for you or you could just mail him the invitation (if he's invited)
why are worried of whats he thinks ??
Honesty is the best policy. Just tell him that you care about him but you know that nothing will ever happen between you two again and that you love your best friend. Tell him that you aren't trying to rub it in his face you just wanted to let him know.
just send him a card in the mail inviting him to your wedding!!! they dont reaaly care!!! trust me my father is broken up with my mom and my dad has two girlfriends right now!!!my mom think's he's retarded now!!!
Is it any of his business? Why would it bother him if it were your ex, and what would make you think he cared if he cheated on you twice? We didn't tell my husbands EX that cheated on him. He'll notice once you start signing your name ';Mrs. so and so.'; You don't have to tell him. You don't have to answer to him anymore, just your new husband!
If you r still in love with your ex boyfriend and both of you broke up and you want to get back together with?
with him do u believe that he will get back with you but the problem is that hes seeing other people what will you do? how would you get him back? and how will you deal with it?If you r still in love with your ex boyfriend and both of you broke up and you want to get back together with?
A lot of people believe that there are ways for getting your ex back!
There are some things you can do or not do that will increase your chances of getting back your ex.
Here is a great website on how to get your ex back: http://www.exbackguides.com/If you r still in love with your ex boyfriend and both of you broke up and you want to get back together with?
Accept the fact that you have broken up or that the break up is happening. It may be necessary to let them know that your alright with it and that both of you should move on. The stress and tension will be eliminated and allow your ex to think and focus on the relationship with out expecting the pressure. This will give the time for realization, not only for your ex, but for you and if you still love one another there will be a path found to get back together.
talk to a lot of guy friends..
and yea that will get him very jeaouolous and hes gonna see your wanted by many guys..!
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Let him know how you feel, and take if from there.
A lot of people believe that there are ways for getting your ex back!
There are some things you can do or not do that will increase your chances of getting back your ex.
Here is a great website on how to get your ex back: http://www.exbackguides.com/If you r still in love with your ex boyfriend and both of you broke up and you want to get back together with?
Accept the fact that you have broken up or that the break up is happening. It may be necessary to let them know that your alright with it and that both of you should move on. The stress and tension will be eliminated and allow your ex to think and focus on the relationship with out expecting the pressure. This will give the time for realization, not only for your ex, but for you and if you still love one another there will be a path found to get back together.
talk to a lot of guy friends..
and yea that will get him very jeaouolous and hes gonna see your wanted by many guys..!
=]
Let him know how you feel, and take if from there.
How do you deal with your boyfriend's crazy ex-girlfriend who has no respect for relationship boundaries?
She leaves voice mail messages telling me I'm psycho, she comes by his house at 10:30 at night and knocks on the door, she drives by his house, she e-mails him and invites him to her house, she leaves mean notes on his car when I'm there, but then makes a CD full of love songs for him.How do you deal with your boyfriend's crazy ex-girlfriend who has no respect for relationship boundaries?
Sounds like the babys mama drama I had to deal with. You leave that is what she wants. You beat her at her own game you WIN!!! She is going to do anything and say anything to make you look bad. He is with you not her. You need to tell him to leave her ALONE FOR GOOD! Laugh at her when you see her, make her feel stupid. If ya'll come in contact, LAY HER OUT!! jk No but just point out he is with you not her and to get over it!How do you deal with your boyfriend's crazy ex-girlfriend who has no respect for relationship boundaries?
I suggest you hire a lawyer to review the anti-stalking laws in your state and to file a restraining order.
I will F**k that girl up, She is totally disrespecting your space and privacy. First of how is your boyfriend responding to this, does he just sit back and watch everything or does he confront her and put her in her face.Maybe you should report her to the police too!!
tell her to back off and that hes not with her anymore cuz hes with u...i cant stand people like that...also tell ur boyfriend to change his number and email address so that she cant contact him...but as far as the leavin notes on his car and drivin by his house i wouldnt know how to stop that except for tellin u that maybe he should move out and move sumwhere that she has no clue where hes at...this way it will break off all types of contact that she can have with him...
That is something you shouldn't have to deal with. Your boyfriend has to tell her to stop doing these things and if he really cares about you he would stop this crazieness.
Ignore her. Both you and BF she is just trying to get his attention. Block her number on both your cells. Throw away the notes pretend like you never got them. Seriously. I had an ex boyfriend who pulled all of these same stunts. My new boyfriend wanted to kick his A$$. I just ignored him and so did my bf. Eventually he got tired of not getting any attention and moved on.
Yeah she's definetly NOT over him. lol. Umm maybe he should fill out a police report for harrassment. Then could help. Or restraining order. She's really crazy and isn't over him yet and she's mad at you and him for being together. Don't let her ruin your relationship with him because that is what she wants!!!!! Don't let her win!
Sounds like the babys mama drama I had to deal with. You leave that is what she wants. You beat her at her own game you WIN!!! She is going to do anything and say anything to make you look bad. He is with you not her. You need to tell him to leave her ALONE FOR GOOD! Laugh at her when you see her, make her feel stupid. If ya'll come in contact, LAY HER OUT!! jk No but just point out he is with you not her and to get over it!How do you deal with your boyfriend's crazy ex-girlfriend who has no respect for relationship boundaries?
I suggest you hire a lawyer to review the anti-stalking laws in your state and to file a restraining order.
I will F**k that girl up, She is totally disrespecting your space and privacy. First of how is your boyfriend responding to this, does he just sit back and watch everything or does he confront her and put her in her face.Maybe you should report her to the police too!!
tell her to back off and that hes not with her anymore cuz hes with u...i cant stand people like that...also tell ur boyfriend to change his number and email address so that she cant contact him...but as far as the leavin notes on his car and drivin by his house i wouldnt know how to stop that except for tellin u that maybe he should move out and move sumwhere that she has no clue where hes at...this way it will break off all types of contact that she can have with him...
That is something you shouldn't have to deal with. Your boyfriend has to tell her to stop doing these things and if he really cares about you he would stop this crazieness.
Ignore her. Both you and BF she is just trying to get his attention. Block her number on both your cells. Throw away the notes pretend like you never got them. Seriously. I had an ex boyfriend who pulled all of these same stunts. My new boyfriend wanted to kick his A$$. I just ignored him and so did my bf. Eventually he got tired of not getting any attention and moved on.
Yeah she's definetly NOT over him. lol. Umm maybe he should fill out a police report for harrassment. Then could help. Or restraining order. She's really crazy and isn't over him yet and she's mad at you and him for being together. Don't let her ruin your relationship with him because that is what she wants!!!!! Don't let her win!
How does it feel when your ex is moving on?
my ex says he is trying his best to move on, but at the same time telling me that he is hurt b/c he hurt me and left me at a hard time. if he is so hurt why is he seeing someone new, and why won't he come back. we have kids together and he seems to think about only what's best for him. has anyone else had to deal with an ex who has moved into something else too fast?How does it feel when your ex is moving on?
He can be hurt by hurting you and by what may have gone on, but he obviously thinks it was for the best which is why he has moved on. You should do the same. Although you should negotiate some sort of plan so the kids don't suffer, visitation, money, support etc. He still has a relationship with them and obligation to help them.How does it feel when your ex is moving on?
Men can be pigs what can I say. Wait wait wait people before
you have children.internet security short hair cut
He can be hurt by hurting you and by what may have gone on, but he obviously thinks it was for the best which is why he has moved on. You should do the same. Although you should negotiate some sort of plan so the kids don't suffer, visitation, money, support etc. He still has a relationship with them and obligation to help them.How does it feel when your ex is moving on?
Men can be pigs what can I say. Wait wait wait people before
you have children.
Females: do you feel threatend by your partners ex/'s when they have to be dealt with?
for example... due to situations relating to kids shared between your partner and the ex. if it is a reverse situation in your case.... how well does your partner deal with it?Females: do you feel threatend by your partners ex/'s when they have to be dealt with?
I don't and neither does my husband now when I have to deal with my ex. An ex is usually an ex for a reason and if you give no reason for the person your with to feel threatened then they won't. You have to make sure they know they are who you want now and that the only relationship with you and your ex is because of the kids and if there were no kids there would be no relationship anymore.Females: do you feel threatend by your partners ex/'s when they have to be dealt with?
i dont feel threatened
It麓s always awkward to ';share'; kids but I made it clear to my ';co-mother'; and I that I would always consult her about big decisions. I never talk bad about her and have always reminded the kids of birthdays and other important things like calling her on a regular basis etc...
I麓ve been trying to steer around boobietraps and never imposed... the big secret seems to be respect and communication and it麓s been working for a long time! I麓m not saying it麓s easy, it麓s the total opposite, but I will work with whatever I get to make my kids happy and raise them to be the best people they can possibly become. Sounds a bit corny but that麓s just the way I see it :-D
I don't have kids, so I can't use them against someone.
HE left her. He wouldnt take her back when she tried to come back.
He chose me.
What upsets me is that he seems like he's ';hiding'; me from her. I know that nothing is going on between them, but it makes me feel like she is controlling his personal life.
I don't hink I'm feeling threatened, per say, but I DO feel like I'm put in the middle. And I don't like that.
i've been here from both ends, in my case the ex wanted to hit on me and tell me how much he still loved me but take our boys to her house, that i didn't allow because i didn't want them to become attached to someone and lose them, so i told him when he had the balls to tell me he loves her and plans to stay with her he's free to take the boys there, by the way they are still together and have been married for 15 years now! we all went to football and baseball games together and it was fine, of course i like her alot more than i like him. my next husband (lack of a better term) dealt with his situation horribly and his kid, it was bad all around and didn't work out at all. as i result i avoid putting myself in situations where i have to deal with 'other peoples children'
well mine dont have kids but we have had problems with my fiancees ex i felt threatened when she kept txting me saying that she been sleeping with him. but we sorted it out an now i know it was a lie to make me get paranoid. Just work together an talk bout any problems you have and it will help if you both sort them together as a couple.
I know my husband doesnt want to ever be with his ex again, but of course there still is an uneasy feeling when he is around her. I know he would never cheat on me, but its still there. I just remind myself that he is mine.
No, do not feel threatened, nothing to be threatened about. she's not in our lives or a part of it. Never has been. It's just the way we've always dealt with it.
you all should be I still have sex with each and everyone of my ex's till this day and I'm married.
my partner finds my relationship with my x weird , we dont get on that well but join forces to overcome any troubles our daughter. he shows signs of being a bit miffed and said the odd coment but on the whole has been very understanding to the situation.
well tyiclly i dont becasue its his problem and his gf should always be ther for him i mean i am ttally fine with my bf
I don't and neither does my husband now when I have to deal with my ex. An ex is usually an ex for a reason and if you give no reason for the person your with to feel threatened then they won't. You have to make sure they know they are who you want now and that the only relationship with you and your ex is because of the kids and if there were no kids there would be no relationship anymore.Females: do you feel threatend by your partners ex/'s when they have to be dealt with?
i dont feel threatened
It麓s always awkward to ';share'; kids but I made it clear to my ';co-mother'; and I that I would always consult her about big decisions. I never talk bad about her and have always reminded the kids of birthdays and other important things like calling her on a regular basis etc...
I麓ve been trying to steer around boobietraps and never imposed... the big secret seems to be respect and communication and it麓s been working for a long time! I麓m not saying it麓s easy, it麓s the total opposite, but I will work with whatever I get to make my kids happy and raise them to be the best people they can possibly become. Sounds a bit corny but that麓s just the way I see it :-D
I don't have kids, so I can't use them against someone.
HE left her. He wouldnt take her back when she tried to come back.
He chose me.
What upsets me is that he seems like he's ';hiding'; me from her. I know that nothing is going on between them, but it makes me feel like she is controlling his personal life.
I don't hink I'm feeling threatened, per say, but I DO feel like I'm put in the middle. And I don't like that.
i've been here from both ends, in my case the ex wanted to hit on me and tell me how much he still loved me but take our boys to her house, that i didn't allow because i didn't want them to become attached to someone and lose them, so i told him when he had the balls to tell me he loves her and plans to stay with her he's free to take the boys there, by the way they are still together and have been married for 15 years now! we all went to football and baseball games together and it was fine, of course i like her alot more than i like him. my next husband (lack of a better term) dealt with his situation horribly and his kid, it was bad all around and didn't work out at all. as i result i avoid putting myself in situations where i have to deal with 'other peoples children'
well mine dont have kids but we have had problems with my fiancees ex i felt threatened when she kept txting me saying that she been sleeping with him. but we sorted it out an now i know it was a lie to make me get paranoid. Just work together an talk bout any problems you have and it will help if you both sort them together as a couple.
I know my husband doesnt want to ever be with his ex again, but of course there still is an uneasy feeling when he is around her. I know he would never cheat on me, but its still there. I just remind myself that he is mine.
No, do not feel threatened, nothing to be threatened about. she's not in our lives or a part of it. Never has been. It's just the way we've always dealt with it.
you all should be I still have sex with each and everyone of my ex's till this day and I'm married.
my partner finds my relationship with my x weird , we dont get on that well but join forces to overcome any troubles our daughter. he shows signs of being a bit miffed and said the odd coment but on the whole has been very understanding to the situation.
well tyiclly i dont becasue its his problem and his gf should always be ther for him i mean i am ttally fine with my bf
What happens when your ex-girlfriend start givng you hint that she wants u back when she hurt him seeing guy.?
How do you deal with an ex-girl friend who went with some other guy but now she wants me back. Though out of one year of relationship she broke up with me every time till the last time, I broke up with her b/c she was seeing some other guy that I knew about him. She did not get anywhere far with that guy and that guy still persisting to get her back. I have gone through a lot of hard time b/c I felt that I was going to marry her and I put lots of my heart in her. Even to this day when she calls me or text me that she misses me and she wanted to see me.. I still get very excited but now I do hold my self back. I really don't want to go back through another breaking up and another emotional stress. If I can have something to trust with then I would but she has broke up with me manytime and manytimes she wanted me to go away. AT times I have been very persistent to have her and she did not like that and now that I left her alone.. it is back firing and she misses me.What happens when your ex-girlfriend start givng you hint that she wants u back when she hurt him seeing guy.?
do what you think is right but before you do that listen to your heart. It will tell you what you need to do.
do what you think is right but before you do that listen to your heart. It will tell you what you need to do.
How do I deal with my ex who I used to go out with being in my college class?
Well, let me start by saying what a weird awkward day. I go in my class hoping that the day will go fine. Then what do I see, my ex who I used to go out with being in the same exact class as me. The thing is me and her ended pretty badly in a relationship few years ago, and getting over her was tough. But I finally got over her and moved on with my life. Back then, we did pretty intense sexual stuff with each other and so seeing her being in the same class as me was just extremely shocking and weird. I remember her telling me she switched her major to Business the same career field I'm in and was gonna transfer to the same university I'm in right now and now I bump into heads with her.
Someone I hoped to never see her again and the weirdest thing I see her in the same exact class as me. It's just such a small world, and I just don't know why she happens to appear in my life again..
Although, it's not that I have any feelings for her anymore it's just really weird and awkward, seeing her face. How can I deal with this horrifying past and just not let it get to me. There's no way I can drop this class and take the same class in different schedule since all the classes are closed. I have to stick being with her in the same class for the whole semester. I plan to stick with my plan on sitting in very front of the class and just pretend she doesn't exist. What would u do? and how would u feel if your ex who you used to go out with and ended pretty badly happened to be in the same class as you.How do I deal with my ex who I used to go out with being in my college class?
just believe in yourself and believe that it is over and you dont want to be with her. if she talks to you be polite. she is a peer now, an old friend, so just think of it like that. i know its hard, it will hopefully get easier. i think sitting in front and being involved in class is a good idea, and get the hell away from there as soon as you can. dont come to class too early lol
i had be in the same class as my ex boyfriend for 3 years!!!!!!!! he was my first realtionships, and it was weird, but he has a gf and i am interested in other things in life so its not such a big deal, just focus on what the teacher is saying, if you have any akward moments just take out ur books and read/write, plan ur day out, check ur voicemails lol hope i helped
Someone I hoped to never see her again and the weirdest thing I see her in the same exact class as me. It's just such a small world, and I just don't know why she happens to appear in my life again..
Although, it's not that I have any feelings for her anymore it's just really weird and awkward, seeing her face. How can I deal with this horrifying past and just not let it get to me. There's no way I can drop this class and take the same class in different schedule since all the classes are closed. I have to stick being with her in the same class for the whole semester. I plan to stick with my plan on sitting in very front of the class and just pretend she doesn't exist. What would u do? and how would u feel if your ex who you used to go out with and ended pretty badly happened to be in the same class as you.How do I deal with my ex who I used to go out with being in my college class?
just believe in yourself and believe that it is over and you dont want to be with her. if she talks to you be polite. she is a peer now, an old friend, so just think of it like that. i know its hard, it will hopefully get easier. i think sitting in front and being involved in class is a good idea, and get the hell away from there as soon as you can. dont come to class too early lol
i had be in the same class as my ex boyfriend for 3 years!!!!!!!! he was my first realtionships, and it was weird, but he has a gf and i am interested in other things in life so its not such a big deal, just focus on what the teacher is saying, if you have any akward moments just take out ur books and read/write, plan ur day out, check ur voicemails lol hope i helped
Guys how do you deal with crisis in your life.?
ex: your parents are divorcing and you don't know how to handle it. And you have a Girlfriend you really love how might it affect your reaction to her.Guys how do you deal with crisis in your life.?
I suck it up and try to learn something from it.
If my parents were divorcing, it would have no influence on my relationship with my girlfriend. If anything, I would probably be appreciative of having someone that I'm having a successful relationship with.
The way I've always tackled things was to learn from my mistakes, not dwell on them. When it comes to divorce, it just makes me think of how many people lose focus (of why it was that they got married in the 1st place), dedication, and commitment.
If your the girlfriend, all you can do is just support your bf if he needs someone to talk to.
Good luck!
I suck it up and try to learn something from it.
If my parents were divorcing, it would have no influence on my relationship with my girlfriend. If anything, I would probably be appreciative of having someone that I'm having a successful relationship with.
The way I've always tackled things was to learn from my mistakes, not dwell on them. When it comes to divorce, it just makes me think of how many people lose focus (of why it was that they got married in the 1st place), dedication, and commitment.
If your the girlfriend, all you can do is just support your bf if he needs someone to talk to.
Good luck!
Divorced folks, how is your relationship w/ your ex?
My ex and I have two kids. He has them every other weekend, but I allow him to come to my house during the week to see them b/c he asked to do that and I thought it was best for the kids. He invites himself along to my family functions when the kids are going and I allow that cause I think it's best for the kids. When he comes to pick up the kids,he comes in and hangs out with them for hours before leaving. He goes to my parents house for the holidays. Is this normal for the ex whom you have kids with to hang out sooo much or do most exes just occasional see the ex but do it in a friendly manner. What is too much? I am beginning to think that he is over-stepping my boundaries because I never hang out at his house, never invited to his family functions and never go to his parents to hang out. I know he misses the kids,but this is getting to be too much. Looking to see how others deal with their ex.Thank you so much!Divorced folks, how is your relationship w/ your ex?
He's pushing the boundaries to see how far he can go also there is a possibility that in his mind as long as he's around so much you won't have the time or feel comfortable looking or seeing someone else. You do want to try and stay on good terms with your ex it makes life easier on you and the kids but you need to set limits.Divorced folks, how is your relationship w/ your ex?
you should count your blessings my ex doesn't do sh---t with his kids in fact his daughter was in the ER today and he was off in a limo to atlantic city
My ex overstepped his bounds a few times, but the longer we were divorced, the less he did that. He developed a life of his own and continued to see our son on a regular basis. I haven't seen him in years, but it's because our son is grown and has a family of his own.
My ex lives 3,000 miles away, our child is an adult, it is her choice if she wants to go visit her father, he comes out her on business quite often and it is our daughter's choice if she wants to see him when he is here. I no longer have anything to do with her ';visitation'; with her father, it is her choice. He and I speak on occasion but there really isn't much communication between us other than my sending him the medical bills I've paid for (He is responsible for reimbursing me), and I send him photos from time to time.
Sounds to me like he's realised how good he had it with you and your folks and he needs the line drawn again and shown the door .
Sit him down and simply explain its to much , he needs to step out , yes he is their father , but your family is not his family anymore and it makes you uncomfortable having him think he has a free passage to basically spy on you by being there so much , your divorced and that was his choice so he need's to show you some respect and find a life and form a relationship with his own family he thinks he is still entitled to with your family.
My ex husband and I got along for 6 years out of the 9 we've been seperated he wouldnt even come inside the house christmas day when it was half time swap over , when I went to his house (which was our's) I'd sit outside , after 12 month's he started inviting me in for chat's about the kid's and I'd stay maybe half an hour then leave , I dont see his family even though he has forced a larger wedge between my family and I by being in their lives it got to the point especially after he moved my brother's ex wife in with him that I dont see my family on holidays or birthday's and if they ring I make it a very short phone call.
Divorce means its OVER some men just have issues with this and dont understand it.Tell him to step back and give you your life he was willing to give you when he asked for the divorce.internet security short hair cut
He's pushing the boundaries to see how far he can go also there is a possibility that in his mind as long as he's around so much you won't have the time or feel comfortable looking or seeing someone else. You do want to try and stay on good terms with your ex it makes life easier on you and the kids but you need to set limits.Divorced folks, how is your relationship w/ your ex?
you should count your blessings my ex doesn't do sh---t with his kids in fact his daughter was in the ER today and he was off in a limo to atlantic city
My ex overstepped his bounds a few times, but the longer we were divorced, the less he did that. He developed a life of his own and continued to see our son on a regular basis. I haven't seen him in years, but it's because our son is grown and has a family of his own.
My ex lives 3,000 miles away, our child is an adult, it is her choice if she wants to go visit her father, he comes out her on business quite often and it is our daughter's choice if she wants to see him when he is here. I no longer have anything to do with her ';visitation'; with her father, it is her choice. He and I speak on occasion but there really isn't much communication between us other than my sending him the medical bills I've paid for (He is responsible for reimbursing me), and I send him photos from time to time.
Sounds to me like he's realised how good he had it with you and your folks and he needs the line drawn again and shown the door .
Sit him down and simply explain its to much , he needs to step out , yes he is their father , but your family is not his family anymore and it makes you uncomfortable having him think he has a free passage to basically spy on you by being there so much , your divorced and that was his choice so he need's to show you some respect and find a life and form a relationship with his own family he thinks he is still entitled to with your family.
My ex husband and I got along for 6 years out of the 9 we've been seperated he wouldnt even come inside the house christmas day when it was half time swap over , when I went to his house (which was our's) I'd sit outside , after 12 month's he started inviting me in for chat's about the kid's and I'd stay maybe half an hour then leave , I dont see his family even though he has forced a larger wedge between my family and I by being in their lives it got to the point especially after he moved my brother's ex wife in with him that I dont see my family on holidays or birthday's and if they ring I make it a very short phone call.
Divorce means its OVER some men just have issues with this and dont understand it.Tell him to step back and give you your life he was willing to give you when he asked for the divorce.
Do you get along with your spouses ex whom they have children with or is it a nightmare?
If you have not always gotten along but do now, what have you done with them to make things easier?
If you still don't how do you deal with them or what does your spouse do to better deal with the ex do to needing some communication for the children?Do you get along with your spouses ex whom they have children with or is it a nightmare?
My husbands x wife is psycho.. I've tried my hardest to get along with this woman, my husband has tried his hardest to get along with this woman, and theres just no getting along with her.. she's manipulative , she uses the kids as pawns to get what she wants.. she'll go out and blow the child support on going to the amusement parks etc, then call us a week later asking for us to pay the child support early because he electricity got turned off.. , Once my step son was sick, (complaining of a headache )and i called her and asked her what she'd like me to give him.. i rattled off all the childrens meds i had in the house, she said to give him 1 tablet of adult tylenol.. (he was 11) she said to keep him home from school, so i did.. she said she'd pick him up and take him to the doctors since he wasnt up to going to school..i told her id need her to be there by 9 because my daughter had an awards ceremony, and i had a dentist appt at 1030 she said no problem, and then didnt show up to pick him up till 10, i missed my daughters award ceremony, and almost had to cancel my dentist appoint.. then when she gets him to the doctors she has them run a tox screen on him trying to claim i od'ed him on tylenol just to find zero in his system.. , She's always late picking up the kids.. she just comes when she feels like it as if i have nothing better to do other then wait for her to show up.. we watched the kids while she went to school at night, id help the kids with their homework cause my husband was usually gone (he's a truck driver) my step daughter has to have an adult sign her homework showing that a parent checked it, so i would, and her mother would send in hateful letters to the school saying had no right to sign any papers of her daughters and scratch my name off the homework, She threw a complete fit when i went with my husband to a parent teacher conference even though i just sat there quietly listening to what the teachers had to say since i do help them with their homework i just wanted to know what i could do to help them so i wanted to hear what they had to say.., she would find out me and my husband had plans, and she'd call last minute saying there was someone in her family on their death bed and needed us to watch the kids, so we'd cancel our plans and watch the kids for her, just to find out a week later that the family member made a miraculous recovery.. She use to walk into my house with out an invite id turn the corner and she'd be sitting on my couch.., she feels she's queen bee and that she has a right to just do as she pleases because she was his first wife (although she left him for another man which only lasted a month after she left).. She called the police on my husband because when her sister picked up the kids in a 5 seater vehicle but had 9 people in the car and his kids not in a seatbelt he stopped a police officer and had them stand by why we took the kids away from his x wifes sister because they were in a danger situation.. but the x calls the police has them come to the house as if we were trying to kidnap them or something, but neglects to tell the police why we took the kids away and that we had a police officer there when we took the kids.. , her and her whole family bad mouth my husband every chance they get.. feeding the kids with lies.. My husband gets the kids every chance he gets, every other weekend, holidays etc.. pays his child support, helps with extra cirricular activities etc.. he has taken them to doctor and dentist appts when hes in town and she doesnt feel like taking him.. he's an extremely active father in his kids lives.. she lets her very petite 12 year old daughter (she is so tiny she looks like shes 9 or 10) who hasnt began to develop wear ';padded'; bras to make her look like she has a chest.. lets her wear extremely tight fitting clothes.. bathsuits that are extremely innapropriate.. she dyes her hair.. , she lets them skip school to go to the beach or if she doesnt feel like taking them to school she will have the kids lie to their dad about why they missed school or to go to amusement parks etc.. they miss on average 25 days every school year, only ';MAYBE '; 14 of those days are actual sick days, their tardy constantly for school.. but she blames her son having asthma as her excuse so they school cant touch her.. and this isnt even half of how looney my x husband wife is.. and he cant do much about it.. the law wont help him.. if he fights with her, the kids end up paying for it, or she just keeps the kids from him.. so half of the time he just rolls over and takes it.. he feels like he's losing his kids because they are constantly being pitted against him..
Its a sad sad sad situation..Do you get along with your spouses ex whom they have children with or is it a nightmare?
me and my stepdaughter mom are best friends (we didn't know each other b4 i married him)
My baby's father and I broke up. Now his exwife and I are like peas and carrots. And the children from their marriage adore me because I respect their mother, unlike him.
I wouldn't even attempt it. It was a pathetic short term relationship that ended in her pregnancy, subsequent alcohol and drug use and 26 years later, a spoiled, nasty bratty kid-adult.
It's a part of my partner's life that I wish was nonexistant and not worth the headache.
We get along, I stay out of there business (I feel that they should be responsible for major things like punishments and deciding schooling and about doctor visit...stuff like that) and I only talk to her when ever I need to. As soon as she starts to bad mouth my husband I tell her she should talk to him and I leave the conversation. I stay neutral and ask her advice or ask what to do only when making decisions about their child.
If you still don't how do you deal with them or what does your spouse do to better deal with the ex do to needing some communication for the children?Do you get along with your spouses ex whom they have children with or is it a nightmare?
My husbands x wife is psycho.. I've tried my hardest to get along with this woman, my husband has tried his hardest to get along with this woman, and theres just no getting along with her.. she's manipulative , she uses the kids as pawns to get what she wants.. she'll go out and blow the child support on going to the amusement parks etc, then call us a week later asking for us to pay the child support early because he electricity got turned off.. , Once my step son was sick, (complaining of a headache )and i called her and asked her what she'd like me to give him.. i rattled off all the childrens meds i had in the house, she said to give him 1 tablet of adult tylenol.. (he was 11) she said to keep him home from school, so i did.. she said she'd pick him up and take him to the doctors since he wasnt up to going to school..i told her id need her to be there by 9 because my daughter had an awards ceremony, and i had a dentist appt at 1030 she said no problem, and then didnt show up to pick him up till 10, i missed my daughters award ceremony, and almost had to cancel my dentist appoint.. then when she gets him to the doctors she has them run a tox screen on him trying to claim i od'ed him on tylenol just to find zero in his system.. , She's always late picking up the kids.. she just comes when she feels like it as if i have nothing better to do other then wait for her to show up.. we watched the kids while she went to school at night, id help the kids with their homework cause my husband was usually gone (he's a truck driver) my step daughter has to have an adult sign her homework showing that a parent checked it, so i would, and her mother would send in hateful letters to the school saying had no right to sign any papers of her daughters and scratch my name off the homework, She threw a complete fit when i went with my husband to a parent teacher conference even though i just sat there quietly listening to what the teachers had to say since i do help them with their homework i just wanted to know what i could do to help them so i wanted to hear what they had to say.., she would find out me and my husband had plans, and she'd call last minute saying there was someone in her family on their death bed and needed us to watch the kids, so we'd cancel our plans and watch the kids for her, just to find out a week later that the family member made a miraculous recovery.. She use to walk into my house with out an invite id turn the corner and she'd be sitting on my couch.., she feels she's queen bee and that she has a right to just do as she pleases because she was his first wife (although she left him for another man which only lasted a month after she left).. She called the police on my husband because when her sister picked up the kids in a 5 seater vehicle but had 9 people in the car and his kids not in a seatbelt he stopped a police officer and had them stand by why we took the kids away from his x wifes sister because they were in a danger situation.. but the x calls the police has them come to the house as if we were trying to kidnap them or something, but neglects to tell the police why we took the kids away and that we had a police officer there when we took the kids.. , her and her whole family bad mouth my husband every chance they get.. feeding the kids with lies.. My husband gets the kids every chance he gets, every other weekend, holidays etc.. pays his child support, helps with extra cirricular activities etc.. he has taken them to doctor and dentist appts when hes in town and she doesnt feel like taking him.. he's an extremely active father in his kids lives.. she lets her very petite 12 year old daughter (she is so tiny she looks like shes 9 or 10) who hasnt began to develop wear ';padded'; bras to make her look like she has a chest.. lets her wear extremely tight fitting clothes.. bathsuits that are extremely innapropriate.. she dyes her hair.. , she lets them skip school to go to the beach or if she doesnt feel like taking them to school she will have the kids lie to their dad about why they missed school or to go to amusement parks etc.. they miss on average 25 days every school year, only ';MAYBE '; 14 of those days are actual sick days, their tardy constantly for school.. but she blames her son having asthma as her excuse so they school cant touch her.. and this isnt even half of how looney my x husband wife is.. and he cant do much about it.. the law wont help him.. if he fights with her, the kids end up paying for it, or she just keeps the kids from him.. so half of the time he just rolls over and takes it.. he feels like he's losing his kids because they are constantly being pitted against him..
Its a sad sad sad situation..Do you get along with your spouses ex whom they have children with or is it a nightmare?
me and my stepdaughter mom are best friends (we didn't know each other b4 i married him)
My baby's father and I broke up. Now his exwife and I are like peas and carrots. And the children from their marriage adore me because I respect their mother, unlike him.
I wouldn't even attempt it. It was a pathetic short term relationship that ended in her pregnancy, subsequent alcohol and drug use and 26 years later, a spoiled, nasty bratty kid-adult.
It's a part of my partner's life that I wish was nonexistant and not worth the headache.
We get along, I stay out of there business (I feel that they should be responsible for major things like punishments and deciding schooling and about doctor visit...stuff like that) and I only talk to her when ever I need to. As soon as she starts to bad mouth my husband I tell her she should talk to him and I leave the conversation. I stay neutral and ask her advice or ask what to do only when making decisions about their child.
How do you deal with your girlfriend's stupid ex boyfriends?
(Hypothetically) If they keep constantly try to get at your girlfriend for no damn good reason, how would you deal with it? Your girlfriend is faithful, and would never cheat on you no matter what, but then her stupid ex boyfriends who's treated her wrong in the past keeps talking and bothering her and keeps convincing her to break up with you, what do you do?
Do you just go down there and beat their @$$ or have a good talk with them or what? And no matter what, your girlfriend will never cheat on you, so no stupid answers like ';just dump her, she's gonna get back with them';. Just hypothetically speaking, wouldn't it bother you?How do you deal with your girlfriend's stupid ex boyfriends?
Id beat that guys ***.. Hes basically walking all over you. I had a girlfriend like this, but later found out she was really just a tramp nothing more. Loved the guys and just couldnt get enough attention, a total nightmere really and Im so glad I dont have to deal with someone like that anymore.. Talk with the guy nicely and if he gets out of control well...
Do you just go down there and beat their @$$ or have a good talk with them or what? And no matter what, your girlfriend will never cheat on you, so no stupid answers like ';just dump her, she's gonna get back with them';. Just hypothetically speaking, wouldn't it bother you?How do you deal with your girlfriend's stupid ex boyfriends?
Id beat that guys ***.. Hes basically walking all over you. I had a girlfriend like this, but later found out she was really just a tramp nothing more. Loved the guys and just couldnt get enough attention, a total nightmere really and Im so glad I dont have to deal with someone like that anymore.. Talk with the guy nicely and if he gets out of control well...
Married women who has to deal with the ex?
You all know what i am talking about. When your husband had kids with an ex girlfriend or ex wife and you have to put up with it. How long did it take to establish a steady civil relationship between you, the ex and your husband if you ever did? Are you involved or does your husband deal with her himself? What are or were your issues with each other?Married women who has to deal with the ex?
I did all the dealing when it came to her. She was nothing but a minipulative c**t and did everything she could to tear us apart, she lost of course.
I then decided to become friendly with her, pays to keep your friends close but your enemies closer.
Now her life has turned to absolute crap and I relish the fact that she is drowning in it. Call me vindictive but she deserves everything that was coming to her.Married women who has to deal with the ex?
It didn't take long at all. My belief is that they had a relationship before you came into the pictures, so you need to give them space to deal with the kids. It took me and the ex-wife about a month to talk to each other. I let her know I was her just to help and was not trying to take anyone place. I told her that her son would not call me mom or step mom... just by my first name. That seem to work for us. Now don't get me wrong, any big things that go on between my husband and the ex, I know about, but little things like him calling to talk to the son.. I don't have anything to do with.
well..i am on both sides of that fence. i am a ';first wife'; and also dating a man who is divorced with children.
my ex and i had a horrible marriage and he remarried a young girl and they have children together. the ex and i don't communicate..so i have come to communicating with his wife. i think we get along pretty well. i do not get involved in ANY of their personal stuff, nor question my children. i try to make things best as possible for my kids.
on the other hand..my bf's ex calls almost everyday about anything that comes to mind. even tho she is remarried too, it seems as though she is not..i don't like it very much.
i guess i just try to be civil..and expect the same from others.
I did all the dealing when it came to her. She was nothing but a minipulative c**t and did everything she could to tear us apart, she lost of course.
I then decided to become friendly with her, pays to keep your friends close but your enemies closer.
Now her life has turned to absolute crap and I relish the fact that she is drowning in it. Call me vindictive but she deserves everything that was coming to her.Married women who has to deal with the ex?
It didn't take long at all. My belief is that they had a relationship before you came into the pictures, so you need to give them space to deal with the kids. It took me and the ex-wife about a month to talk to each other. I let her know I was her just to help and was not trying to take anyone place. I told her that her son would not call me mom or step mom... just by my first name. That seem to work for us. Now don't get me wrong, any big things that go on between my husband and the ex, I know about, but little things like him calling to talk to the son.. I don't have anything to do with.
well..i am on both sides of that fence. i am a ';first wife'; and also dating a man who is divorced with children.
my ex and i had a horrible marriage and he remarried a young girl and they have children together. the ex and i don't communicate..so i have come to communicating with his wife. i think we get along pretty well. i do not get involved in ANY of their personal stuff, nor question my children. i try to make things best as possible for my kids.
on the other hand..my bf's ex calls almost everyday about anything that comes to mind. even tho she is remarried too, it seems as though she is not..i don't like it very much.
i guess i just try to be civil..and expect the same from others.
HOW DO U DEAL WITH EX?!! HE IS SO ANNOYING... ugh!!!!?
How can u make it clear to your ex that u r not interested in him anymore.. i have tried so many ways but nothing worked...sheesh!!!! help plz!!!
he is so difficult and so selfish and thinks too much of himself and is so full of himself... jeez!!!!
i tried everything to stop him but no success whatsoever!!!HOW DO U DEAL WITH EX?!! HE IS SO ANNOYING... ugh!!!!?
Change your number. Or, don't answer it. You don't have to be his victim anymore or his rug. He is stringing you along and that is feeding his ego. He is probably telling his buddies that you are not leaving him alone and you are trying to get him back. Show him you are getting on with your life and you don't need him.HOW DO U DEAL WITH EX?!! HE IS SO ANNOYING... ugh!!!!?
trust me, just ignore him, don't email, don't text, don't pick up, NADA. If its over its OVER. This happened to me and I dragged this stupid relationship for over 6 years, he just wouldn't give up. Now I so wished i had just been clear about it, instead of trying not to hurt his feelings.
When you've tried being rational and talking to him, start using profanity! Like...
GET THE F AWAY FROM ME
:) It might work. And make a conscious effort to show him you're avoiding him. Delete him? Block him? If he's being really unbearable, you might have to.
Screw his best friend lol jokes. Just confront him about it and if he keeps stalking you hit him.
tell him i hate you, your a piece of s**t, and i hope you choke leave me alone ur a loser and good luck killin yourself
cut all communication, trying to remain cordial is leading the wrong impression
restraining order...
idk block him from your phone etc. Just ignore him.
I avoided him when we first broke up. Stay away from him.
block his number
dnt answer his fone calls
sometimes u just have to be rude in order for ppl to get the picture
I tried to tell mine to but to no avail then i figured what the heck nothing wrong with having fans now i treat them like annoying friends and we all have those.
he is so difficult and so selfish and thinks too much of himself and is so full of himself... jeez!!!!
i tried everything to stop him but no success whatsoever!!!HOW DO U DEAL WITH EX?!! HE IS SO ANNOYING... ugh!!!!?
Change your number. Or, don't answer it. You don't have to be his victim anymore or his rug. He is stringing you along and that is feeding his ego. He is probably telling his buddies that you are not leaving him alone and you are trying to get him back. Show him you are getting on with your life and you don't need him.HOW DO U DEAL WITH EX?!! HE IS SO ANNOYING... ugh!!!!?
trust me, just ignore him, don't email, don't text, don't pick up, NADA. If its over its OVER. This happened to me and I dragged this stupid relationship for over 6 years, he just wouldn't give up. Now I so wished i had just been clear about it, instead of trying not to hurt his feelings.
When you've tried being rational and talking to him, start using profanity! Like...
GET THE F AWAY FROM ME
:) It might work. And make a conscious effort to show him you're avoiding him. Delete him? Block him? If he's being really unbearable, you might have to.
Screw his best friend lol jokes. Just confront him about it and if he keeps stalking you hit him.
tell him i hate you, your a piece of s**t, and i hope you choke leave me alone ur a loser and good luck killin yourself
cut all communication, trying to remain cordial is leading the wrong impression
restraining order...
idk block him from your phone etc. Just ignore him.
I avoided him when we first broke up. Stay away from him.
block his number
dnt answer his fone calls
sometimes u just have to be rude in order for ppl to get the picture
I tried to tell mine to but to no avail then i figured what the heck nothing wrong with having fans now i treat them like annoying friends and we all have those.
How to deal with your bf's ex gf....?
I've been dating, well engaged now,to this amazing guy for about two years now and he use to date this girl, that I'll call Susan, before me. They weren't serious just fooled around I guess you could say. When me and my fiance first got together, I heard a lot of things about her from his friends and family. One night, we all decided to go to this bar and she was there that same night. No surprise though bc this was one of her hangouts. I'm not the type of person to get pissed off at my current boyfriend's ex because they did me no wrong but this one in-particular I do not like ONLY because as I was walking out of the bathroom at this bar, she was coming in and I tried to hold the door open for her being nice and she bluntly said, ';I know how to open my own door';. Therefore, I closed the door and made her open it herself. Every since this incident she's been a total ****** to me. It would be easy to just ignore her and pay her no mind when she's not in our lives but most of her friends are friends/family of ours. Seems like no matter where we go to hang out with our friends/family she always seems to show up and ruin my night. To make a long story short, how do I get over the fact that she's a ***** and tries to rub the fact she was with my man in my face?How to deal with your bf's ex gf....?
just keep reminding yourself that she is THE PAST and you are HIS PRESENT and HIS FUTURE! Sounds like she has some serious attitude problems. Just ignore her and show to her, everyone else and mainly YOURSELF, that you are better than that and carry yourself better than her.
My ex b/f's woman used to give me a hard time. But, in my case, he is an abuser; and all i would think when she would give me a hard time is, ';he's HER problem now, not MINE!'; Be grateful that your b/f woke-up and found someone of quality like yourself. =)How to deal with your bf's ex gf....?
don't worry she's just being a HATER! no matter how stupid she is just remember he's all yours and there is nothing that she can do about it. just for fun thought if she keeps being a b**ch just go ahead and kick her a**
Pay her no mind and most of all get new friends to hang with.
how to deal with your boyfriends ex girlfriend... DONT.
let her know that you're not gonna take her s.hit and shes probably just b.itchy to you because you're with her man
as long as ur bf is wid u...u should not worry....first of all...how does she know whre u guyz r at dat she cumz n ruinz ur nightz... u shud get 2 da bottom of this through ur bf...gud luck
Hey beth,
In a moment I will tell you the very first thing ( advice)that popped into my mind, but first.... I checked out your profile.... reminds me a bit of myself!
I think it is so awesome you follow Christ! Which leads me to my advice... Pray for ';Susan';. No not that God would strike her dead! You know it doesn't work way lol.
God tells us to pray for our enemies.
I will be the first to say that I have been in your shoes.
But it was an ex wife. When 2 people have shared a life together and had children together, that past never goes away. It is unbelievably hard for a couple to make a new life together when the old one is in your face all the time. My ex wife (she may as well be) has done everything under the sun to make life hard for us.
I wont go into details as this is not about me. I only want to show that I understand.
My point is that after a year of praying for God to strike her dead (truly) I realized where I was going wrong.
When I began to pray for her, in a positive way... well the sea parted!
I still pray for her that she will come to know God one day as I love my step daughters dearly and I know what they want for their mom.
I went from utter hate to seeing this woman as a child of God.
I wont say that everything has been perfect since but it was 14 years ago and I have not lived with hatred in my heart for a very long time.
The beauty of your situation is that you don't have to have her in your life as they have no ';real'; connection like marriage or children.
Clearly she is a very unhappy person and only wishes she were woman enough to keep YOUR man.Likely you make her miserable whenever she sees the two of you together. Her behaviour shows her i insecurities. Men do not find an insecure woman attractive.
I am telling you this works. Have Faith!
Been there, done that!
Don't fight back, it'll only make things worse. Just be calm, ignore her ****, and remember: she's jealous cause you are better than she was and that's why she so mad at you. There shouldn't be a problem unless she's coming onto your man, and if she is around just ignore and avoid her.
If it's so much of a problem find different hangouts, and make sure she doesn't find out about it.
Good luck!internet security short hair cut
just keep reminding yourself that she is THE PAST and you are HIS PRESENT and HIS FUTURE! Sounds like she has some serious attitude problems. Just ignore her and show to her, everyone else and mainly YOURSELF, that you are better than that and carry yourself better than her.
My ex b/f's woman used to give me a hard time. But, in my case, he is an abuser; and all i would think when she would give me a hard time is, ';he's HER problem now, not MINE!'; Be grateful that your b/f woke-up and found someone of quality like yourself. =)How to deal with your bf's ex gf....?
don't worry she's just being a HATER! no matter how stupid she is just remember he's all yours and there is nothing that she can do about it. just for fun thought if she keeps being a b**ch just go ahead and kick her a**
Pay her no mind and most of all get new friends to hang with.
how to deal with your boyfriends ex girlfriend... DONT.
let her know that you're not gonna take her s.hit and shes probably just b.itchy to you because you're with her man
as long as ur bf is wid u...u should not worry....first of all...how does she know whre u guyz r at dat she cumz n ruinz ur nightz... u shud get 2 da bottom of this through ur bf...gud luck
Hey beth,
In a moment I will tell you the very first thing ( advice)that popped into my mind, but first.... I checked out your profile.... reminds me a bit of myself!
I think it is so awesome you follow Christ! Which leads me to my advice... Pray for ';Susan';. No not that God would strike her dead! You know it doesn't work way lol.
God tells us to pray for our enemies.
I will be the first to say that I have been in your shoes.
But it was an ex wife. When 2 people have shared a life together and had children together, that past never goes away. It is unbelievably hard for a couple to make a new life together when the old one is in your face all the time. My ex wife (she may as well be) has done everything under the sun to make life hard for us.
I wont go into details as this is not about me. I only want to show that I understand.
My point is that after a year of praying for God to strike her dead (truly) I realized where I was going wrong.
When I began to pray for her, in a positive way... well the sea parted!
I still pray for her that she will come to know God one day as I love my step daughters dearly and I know what they want for their mom.
I went from utter hate to seeing this woman as a child of God.
I wont say that everything has been perfect since but it was 14 years ago and I have not lived with hatred in my heart for a very long time.
The beauty of your situation is that you don't have to have her in your life as they have no ';real'; connection like marriage or children.
Clearly she is a very unhappy person and only wishes she were woman enough to keep YOUR man.Likely you make her miserable whenever she sees the two of you together. Her behaviour shows her i insecurities. Men do not find an insecure woman attractive.
I am telling you this works. Have Faith!
Been there, done that!
Don't fight back, it'll only make things worse. Just be calm, ignore her ****, and remember: she's jealous cause you are better than she was and that's why she so mad at you. There shouldn't be a problem unless she's coming onto your man, and if she is around just ignore and avoid her.
If it's so much of a problem find different hangouts, and make sure she doesn't find out about it.
Good luck!
How to deal with your boyfriend's ex-girlfriends?
I love my boyfriend A LOT! Through the years we have not only managed to have a successful relationship but we have both helped each other to become successful people. The only problem is his PAST (before I met him, and about 2 years in to our relationship). We both started going out when he was 16 and I was 15 years old. Now I am 22 and he is 23. When he was about 16-18 years old he was a really big flirt and flirted with a lot of girls at clubs/parties/etc. He has changed and our relationship and i really trust him because he has grown up and changed his ways.
the only thing is that I always see these past girls everywhere I go!!! it just really depresses me especially since I have only 1 boyfriend before him, and no one i flirted with!
How can i deal with this, I am starting med-school next year so I don't want to deal with this when I start school.How to deal with your boyfriend's ex-girlfriends?
Congrats on Med School! FOCUS. You're going to be so busy and he's going to be wondering if you're going to forget about him with all of those other potentially brilliant pediatricians, cardiologists, neurologists and trauma surgeons that you'll be seeing EVERY DAY to discuss ... physiology, chemistry and human behavior/psychology. All those study partners....could something happen in the throes of physical chemistry that could incite hormonal responses? Let YOUR BOYFRIEND worry a little bit about the relationship. You just get through your classes.
Honestly, do you really think those ex-girlfriends of his waited for 6 years for the opportunity to pounce him while you went away to medical school?How to deal with your boyfriend's ex-girlfriends?
If he's changed and he is no longer a flirt, then his past shouldn't matter, he can't change it. It's been and gone. You have to remember that he is with you now and that he probably doesn't even remember those past girls (which are most likely tarts)
If this really bothers you, talk to him about it and he will not doubt assure you that everything is fine.
Good luck and focus on your education :)
talk about low confidence
scars mark what happened in your past
not where you are going in the future
quit thinkin about those girls
that was your past
tomorrow is your future
focus on your tomorrow
be glad u got where you are @
when u wake up in the morning and look in the mirror
say
';damn, im sexy, and lucky';
dats all it takes
seems like their is nothing to worry about here. you love him and trust him thats all that matters . if you trust him then he should know that and he wont do anything to harm the relationship .
answer mine - http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Get over it, 1 or 1000, the important part is that you're with him now and he doesn't cheat.
If it helps, think of it as you being better for him than all those girls you meet, otherwise he wouldn't stay with you
You either have to accept it and let it go, or it will ruin your relationship.
Not much else you can do.
BTW, congrats on med school.
The past is the past let go of it unless you want to loose your future.
Make friends with them cus hes yours not theres so u shouldnt trip
dont worry unless he is talking to them. they have nothing on you
the only thing is that I always see these past girls everywhere I go!!! it just really depresses me especially since I have only 1 boyfriend before him, and no one i flirted with!
How can i deal with this, I am starting med-school next year so I don't want to deal with this when I start school.How to deal with your boyfriend's ex-girlfriends?
Congrats on Med School! FOCUS. You're going to be so busy and he's going to be wondering if you're going to forget about him with all of those other potentially brilliant pediatricians, cardiologists, neurologists and trauma surgeons that you'll be seeing EVERY DAY to discuss ... physiology, chemistry and human behavior/psychology. All those study partners....could something happen in the throes of physical chemistry that could incite hormonal responses? Let YOUR BOYFRIEND worry a little bit about the relationship. You just get through your classes.
Honestly, do you really think those ex-girlfriends of his waited for 6 years for the opportunity to pounce him while you went away to medical school?How to deal with your boyfriend's ex-girlfriends?
If he's changed and he is no longer a flirt, then his past shouldn't matter, he can't change it. It's been and gone. You have to remember that he is with you now and that he probably doesn't even remember those past girls (which are most likely tarts)
If this really bothers you, talk to him about it and he will not doubt assure you that everything is fine.
Good luck and focus on your education :)
talk about low confidence
scars mark what happened in your past
not where you are going in the future
quit thinkin about those girls
that was your past
tomorrow is your future
focus on your tomorrow
be glad u got where you are @
when u wake up in the morning and look in the mirror
say
';damn, im sexy, and lucky';
dats all it takes
seems like their is nothing to worry about here. you love him and trust him thats all that matters . if you trust him then he should know that and he wont do anything to harm the relationship .
answer mine - http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Get over it, 1 or 1000, the important part is that you're with him now and he doesn't cheat.
If it helps, think of it as you being better for him than all those girls you meet, otherwise he wouldn't stay with you
You either have to accept it and let it go, or it will ruin your relationship.
Not much else you can do.
BTW, congrats on med school.
The past is the past let go of it unless you want to loose your future.
Make friends with them cus hes yours not theres so u shouldnt trip
dont worry unless he is talking to them. they have nothing on you
How to deal with an Ex in your class? Advice please (:?
Okay so there's this guy in my class %26amp; we recently broke up but before that,we'd spend basically every single day together for almost 2 months so even though we're not together anymore,I still have really strong feelings for him ..Apparently he wanted to get back with me %26amp; wrote a poem about me %26amp; all this stuff but he ended up changing his mind I guess in 24 hours cuz he wanted to ask out someone else(as a rebound,maybe?) I dunno what's going through his head but yea..
My question is how do I deal with him cuz (as cheesy as this might sound), it kinda hurts to see him everyday :\ ..any suggestions? thanks.How to deal with an Ex in your class? Advice please (:?
throw spitwads at him
My question is how do I deal with him cuz (as cheesy as this might sound), it kinda hurts to see him everyday :\ ..any suggestions? thanks.How to deal with an Ex in your class? Advice please (:?
throw spitwads at him
How do you deal with your fiance's ex 2 years later?
She is still emailing him and we have a family now. She threatned to fight me and I am disabled.How do you deal with your fiance's ex 2 years later?
Thats just wrong, but you shouldn't have gotten involved with him if he was still involved with his ex. And if she thretens you then throw her in jail, get a restraining order and then throw her in jail, also consider dumping him.How do you deal with your fiance's ex 2 years later?
I was gonna say just ignore her. Afterall, you are married to the man now.
But when there's a threat, I guess the first thing that you should do is to tell about the threat to your husband. If you can handle it, straighten things out with her - with the 3 of you present. If she does not abide by this, I suggest you report it to the local police so that she'd realize that you mean business and you won't take things sitting down.
Thats just wrong, but you shouldn't have gotten involved with him if he was still involved with his ex. And if she thretens you then throw her in jail, get a restraining order and then throw her in jail, also consider dumping him.How do you deal with your fiance's ex 2 years later?
I was gonna say just ignore her. Afterall, you are married to the man now.
But when there's a threat, I guess the first thing that you should do is to tell about the threat to your husband. If you can handle it, straighten things out with her - with the 3 of you present. If she does not abide by this, I suggest you report it to the local police so that she'd realize that you mean business and you won't take things sitting down.
How do you deal with your partner being friends with an ex?
This ex has been very disrespectful to me in the past. He as spoken to her about it, but for awhile, she continued to disrespect me. Things are better now but I find it hard not to worry.How do you deal with your partner being friends with an ex?
You don't deal with it!
If your partner NEEDS to be friends with his ex and needs her approval, he isn't really over her. If he was over her he wouldn't need her in his life. You have discernment you should be able to tell if the friendship between them is truly platonic, I suggest if he got the broken heart (she broke up with him) and he still feels the need to be friends with her he isn't over her. Give him space move out/ away / back off a bit... he needs to know what he misses. Why does your partner allow his ex to a) be in contact with you and b) be disrespectful to you? The fact that you posted this message means that it concerns you.... say you married the boy- do you forever want to be worried about his relationship with his exes? what other relationships would he have with other females- platonic or not- that you will ';find it hard not to worry';about.
Move on/ move away- you deserve better than that!
Read ';The Rules'; by Fein %26amp; Schneider :-PHow do you deal with your partner being friends with an ex?
he's with you not with her! they didn't work so don't worry about it. they're just talking.
I know what you mean---try not to worry. I get that way sometimes too, but hey we all have ex's, and I chose that I didn't want to be friends with him-we talk for the sake of our daughter but that's it. My husband has children with his ex, but he;s with me, so I'm going to trust him. I think it's normal to doubt things every now and again. Good Luck
My husband is not friends with his ex but he does still talk to her from time to time and give her advice, etc. I find it reassuring because I know that if the time ever came that things went sour between us (God, I hope not) then I know I could still count on him to be there for me. We went through the whole disrespect thing too, but he put her in her place and years later she doesn't even bring me into the conversation because she is finally over him (hopefully).
Who ended the relationship makes a big difference too. He ended it with her because he wasn't in love with her and didn't want to deal with being in a relationship with her any more. If it were the opposite way, I'm not sure I'd be so open to him talking to her.
The bottom line is you have to trust him. If he wanted to be with her, he would be with her and not you. As long as he isn't sitting on the phone bashing you with her, then I would not worry about his loyalty to you.
Good luck to you! Because I trusted my husband, we have always had a great relationship and he tells me everything which makes it easier to trust him even more!
I don't and thats because I do not allow it. Not that I don't trust my partner but because I am a woman and I know what we are capable of doing and not to mention there are some very triffling women out there that doesn't give a flip about your relationship. They will do all they can to break up your happy home. So stop this now before it goes to far.
WOW! You must really love him to let this go on . I would say it was ok if she was always cool with you in the beginning ! She must still have feeling for him if she is still trying to be so called friends with him ! Be careful because if he is cool with being friends with her knowing how you feel ,he must feel something deep down inside . There is a test to see how they really feel about each other ! If you have a friend that they have never met or a cousin , have that girl come around and pretend she really hates you and she becomes close with the ex-girlfriend and have your friend or cousin talk to her about her and your boyfriend to see how things are ! GOOD LUCK !
i don't deal with it, my partner isn't friendly with his ex. neither am i
Well it really a terrible situation, i wont lie to you, becos to me it means that they might have been friends even before you stopped dating him your ex.The issue is if you really love your partner, pls do not hide anything for him as a source of past, because your ex can use that to destroy your relationshipand also dont force your guy not been frien to your ex, because this might make him want to know the dirty things you have done.So if you love him let him make friends with whosoever he has chosen and for forget the issue of the ex and see only your partner existing.
dump them both!!!!!!!!!!
You don't deal with it!
If your partner NEEDS to be friends with his ex and needs her approval, he isn't really over her. If he was over her he wouldn't need her in his life. You have discernment you should be able to tell if the friendship between them is truly platonic, I suggest if he got the broken heart (she broke up with him) and he still feels the need to be friends with her he isn't over her. Give him space move out/ away / back off a bit... he needs to know what he misses. Why does your partner allow his ex to a) be in contact with you and b) be disrespectful to you? The fact that you posted this message means that it concerns you.... say you married the boy- do you forever want to be worried about his relationship with his exes? what other relationships would he have with other females- platonic or not- that you will ';find it hard not to worry';about.
Move on/ move away- you deserve better than that!
Read ';The Rules'; by Fein %26amp; Schneider :-PHow do you deal with your partner being friends with an ex?
he's with you not with her! they didn't work so don't worry about it. they're just talking.
I know what you mean---try not to worry. I get that way sometimes too, but hey we all have ex's, and I chose that I didn't want to be friends with him-we talk for the sake of our daughter but that's it. My husband has children with his ex, but he;s with me, so I'm going to trust him. I think it's normal to doubt things every now and again. Good Luck
My husband is not friends with his ex but he does still talk to her from time to time and give her advice, etc. I find it reassuring because I know that if the time ever came that things went sour between us (God, I hope not) then I know I could still count on him to be there for me. We went through the whole disrespect thing too, but he put her in her place and years later she doesn't even bring me into the conversation because she is finally over him (hopefully).
Who ended the relationship makes a big difference too. He ended it with her because he wasn't in love with her and didn't want to deal with being in a relationship with her any more. If it were the opposite way, I'm not sure I'd be so open to him talking to her.
The bottom line is you have to trust him. If he wanted to be with her, he would be with her and not you. As long as he isn't sitting on the phone bashing you with her, then I would not worry about his loyalty to you.
Good luck to you! Because I trusted my husband, we have always had a great relationship and he tells me everything which makes it easier to trust him even more!
I don't and thats because I do not allow it. Not that I don't trust my partner but because I am a woman and I know what we are capable of doing and not to mention there are some very triffling women out there that doesn't give a flip about your relationship. They will do all they can to break up your happy home. So stop this now before it goes to far.
WOW! You must really love him to let this go on . I would say it was ok if she was always cool with you in the beginning ! She must still have feeling for him if she is still trying to be so called friends with him ! Be careful because if he is cool with being friends with her knowing how you feel ,he must feel something deep down inside . There is a test to see how they really feel about each other ! If you have a friend that they have never met or a cousin , have that girl come around and pretend she really hates you and she becomes close with the ex-girlfriend and have your friend or cousin talk to her about her and your boyfriend to see how things are ! GOOD LUCK !
i don't deal with it, my partner isn't friendly with his ex. neither am i
Well it really a terrible situation, i wont lie to you, becos to me it means that they might have been friends even before you stopped dating him your ex.The issue is if you really love your partner, pls do not hide anything for him as a source of past, because your ex can use that to destroy your relationshipand also dont force your guy not been frien to your ex, because this might make him want to know the dirty things you have done.So if you love him let him make friends with whosoever he has chosen and for forget the issue of the ex and see only your partner existing.
dump them both!!!!!!!!!!
How to deal with your boyfriend's ex girlfriend?
she is so mad with me and my bf. at the moment, i just try to avoid encountering her... never reply her msg, and all... i want her to cool down.. its been only 2 months..How to deal with your boyfriend's ex girlfriend?
maybe your boyfriend wasn't nice.
let's hope he is more considerate when he leaves you.How to deal with your boyfriend's ex girlfriend?
I think that you shouldn't do anything rash, like trying to confront her. Only do that if she comes on to your man. Have confidence in yourself and know that you are the only one for him now. But ask your man if he still have feelings on her, if not know you're safe. DON'T TRUST your man completely.
i dunno...maybe u should not
Call her a biatchh...take her on the jerry springer show..then move on!
sounds like you are doin gthe best thing. Just stay away from her.
give her more time.....when everything is fine, try to talk to her n' figure out her mind.....understand her n' explain that love without love is just a waste of time.....maybe take her out to know more people, who knows she might meet a more suitable bf??
Ask her to join you two. she will be then your best friend
simple dont she shouldnt be a conern once shes the ex ,unless there is kids involved she shouldnt be an issue
maybe your boyfriend wasn't nice.
let's hope he is more considerate when he leaves you.How to deal with your boyfriend's ex girlfriend?
I think that you shouldn't do anything rash, like trying to confront her. Only do that if she comes on to your man. Have confidence in yourself and know that you are the only one for him now. But ask your man if he still have feelings on her, if not know you're safe. DON'T TRUST your man completely.
i dunno...maybe u should not
Call her a biatchh...take her on the jerry springer show..then move on!
sounds like you are doin gthe best thing. Just stay away from her.
give her more time.....when everything is fine, try to talk to her n' figure out her mind.....understand her n' explain that love without love is just a waste of time.....maybe take her out to know more people, who knows she might meet a more suitable bf??
Ask her to join you two. she will be then your best friend
simple dont she shouldnt be a conern once shes the ex ,unless there is kids involved she shouldnt be an issue
WAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOUR EX SAID THIS....
if your ex tell you that he/she likes you and misses you but
likes his/her new friend more??
would you still be their friend even though it makes you mad
would you still have feelings for your ex
how would you deal with the jealousy
what would you do %26amp; how would you try to move on?
WAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOUR EX SAID THIS....
Well at the same time the person is trying to make you jelous .. it would hurt my feelings obviously and, No i wouldnt be their friend, because i can understand that the persons trying to make me jelous. I would just dump the person and NEVER think abou them again. I Think you should do that too ?WAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOUR EX SAID THIS....
i would definetly still b their friend because obviously i have a past with this person and even more so i would get mad but wouldn't show it. i woul dstill have feelings for my ex but to deal with my jealousy i would find a guy as good as think he is. i would try to move on by trying to stop talking to him for a wile- maybe a week or two so i can give miself time to develop a new relationship!
well, obviously you'd feel jealous, but..we all get jealous its something you have to put up with and just let it sail by.
if it happened to me, first reaction would be jealousy and then probably depression, I'm not sure...hasn't happenedd for a long time.
best thing to do bud, is to move on.
accept the fact she is happier off, dont think anything of it.
Just move on and stop making excuses if he or she dont wont you any more then they dont wont you. If they care for there friend more then you its means some thing, as in you did them wrong but yet they misses you and never for about what u guys have and now they care about sum1 new that there getting to know. I understand.
Stop taking their calls and tell them that you're not speaking to them anymore. Tell them to only contact you once they have it figured out, and MAYBE you'll be single then.
of course i would still be her friend... and i might just have a little feelings for my ex... i would get a new boyfriend... i would just find some one who likes me and give him a try...
I am lucky in that dept. I can honestly say I truly ,to the core of my being ,depise, and am repulsed by my ugly ,mopey ,selfish, greedy oh and did I say selfish ex coward mooch boy. YUK
sounds like you aren't thinking straight. Don't let emotions about your ex contol you.
he's your ex who cares!
ignore him and find a new friend.internet security short hair cut
likes his/her new friend more??
would you still be their friend even though it makes you mad
would you still have feelings for your ex
how would you deal with the jealousy
what would you do %26amp; how would you try to move on?
WAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOUR EX SAID THIS....
Well at the same time the person is trying to make you jelous .. it would hurt my feelings obviously and, No i wouldnt be their friend, because i can understand that the persons trying to make me jelous. I would just dump the person and NEVER think abou them again. I Think you should do that too ?WAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOUR EX SAID THIS....
i would definetly still b their friend because obviously i have a past with this person and even more so i would get mad but wouldn't show it. i woul dstill have feelings for my ex but to deal with my jealousy i would find a guy as good as think he is. i would try to move on by trying to stop talking to him for a wile- maybe a week or two so i can give miself time to develop a new relationship!
well, obviously you'd feel jealous, but..we all get jealous its something you have to put up with and just let it sail by.
if it happened to me, first reaction would be jealousy and then probably depression, I'm not sure...hasn't happenedd for a long time.
best thing to do bud, is to move on.
accept the fact she is happier off, dont think anything of it.
Just move on and stop making excuses if he or she dont wont you any more then they dont wont you. If they care for there friend more then you its means some thing, as in you did them wrong but yet they misses you and never for about what u guys have and now they care about sum1 new that there getting to know. I understand.
Stop taking their calls and tell them that you're not speaking to them anymore. Tell them to only contact you once they have it figured out, and MAYBE you'll be single then.
of course i would still be her friend... and i might just have a little feelings for my ex... i would get a new boyfriend... i would just find some one who likes me and give him a try...
I am lucky in that dept. I can honestly say I truly ,to the core of my being ,depise, and am repulsed by my ugly ,mopey ,selfish, greedy oh and did I say selfish ex coward mooch boy. YUK
sounds like you aren't thinking straight. Don't let emotions about your ex contol you.
he's your ex who cares!
ignore him and find a new friend.
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