I'm gay %26amp; my friend is someone that isnt sure about his sexuality when its obvious %26amp; he denys the question of his sexual orrientation but finds time to talk to someone whom I've had %26amp; still has feelings for. It's hard to deal with especially when we hangout in the same place with the same people..Any advice, send it this way :]What do you do when you have friend that betrays u %26amp; talks %26amp; flirts with your ex-fling?how do you cope?
As far as your friends sexual orientation is concerned i wouldn't push it with him, i know of someone who seems to be the same and loses it if anyone tries to bring it up, give him some privacy to figure it out.
As for your initial question, it's kinda insensitive of him to latch on to your ex, i wonder if he feels able to 'express' himself with your ex, in a way he couldn't with you, as maybe your too close to him in that respect. you should tell him how you feel, that him talking to your ex is causing you some distress as you're not yet over him, and as a friend his priority should be to support you. Explain that you find his flirting/friendship with the other guy insensitive. Your friend may not have realised that he was hurting you. It could be, however, that your friend is trying to drop subtle hints to you about his sexuality without openly saying, is simply curious and your ex feels safer. If, after talking with him, your friend still won't stop maybe it would be time to withdraw from him a bit. Your friend seems confused to me, he may not understand what he's doing. Hope it works out ok, XWhat do you do when you have friend that betrays u %26amp; talks %26amp; flirts with your ex-fling?how do you cope?
My best answer, if the two of you have a strong friendship......tell them your feelings. Honesty is almost always the best way. Then if things don't work that way go your seperate ways and let the pieces fall where them may!!!
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