Would you let your partners ex around your children?

If your partners ex is still in your social network ( friends with family or in laws or other friends) but you do not get along would you let them around your children? If so, how would you explain to your children who they are?


My in laws still associate with my boyfriends ex and i personally would not want her around my children. Also how do you deal with the ex being around your in laws?Would you let your partners ex around your children?
Well if this is someone you feel should not be around your children then don't let her around them! Your call on this one not theirs. Simply tell your in laws that you do not want this person around your children and would appreciate if they would respect your wishesWould you let your partners ex around your children?
You can't control every aspect of your child's life. You can only marginally control the people the meet and are surrounded by. For example when the child in question goes to school you cannot pick and choose who will be in your child's class and who will be their teacher.





In the same way you cannot choose your in-laws friends. If you trust them to have the child with them then you have to trust them to not expose him to things and people that are totally inappropriate. It's not as though she's spending time alone with them.





I think you need to be the bigger person and keep quiet. If it does come back to you that she's said or done something that you and your hubby don't approve of then you just say to the kid, ';You see that wasn't very nice and that's why she and daddy aren't special friends anymore.'; You're not bashing her so much as showing that you disapprove of certain things she does and showing that you expect your child not to learn from her example.





Good luck.
i would wonder why my inlaws still tlak to her! Who gives a crap about the in laws but she would NOT be around my kids sorry i just have something against ex's of my spouse! I would tell my in laws that it really isnt fair to u and ur kids would see them with u only and when she is not around.
My husband's ex is NOT allowed to even see our son. She is 100% psychotic though so I don't feel bad about not letting her see him. I personally would not let her see my kids especially if you do not get along with her. She has no 'right' to see them. They are not hers.
If he's just a boyfriend, they're not your in-laws, unless I'm misunderstanding something...





I don't see why your children would need to be around them. That one's easy; if you're not around her, then they're not around her... What do your children have to do with his ex?





As far as the 'in-laws' dealing with his ex, there's nothing to it; they can if they want to, and it shouldn't affect you. They obviously still like her, so that's that.





*edit* What's with the thumbs down? Is this, or is this not, an OPINION question? If the poster is the one who down thumbed, that's even more ridiculous, as you're not always going to get answers that you want to read... If it was someone else, hey... you gave your opinion, and I gave mine.





*2nd edit* After 8 years, I would have found a way to deal with this, by now! (That wasn't meant as a rude comment, either.)





*sigh* Dealing with immature people, sure does suck... When you're with someone, it's very likely they're going to have someone in their past... Who cares if his parents still like his ex? Does that take anything away from you? NO! But, you (or whoever freaks out over stuff like this) make yourself look insecure, if something this insignificant bothers you... Just because you're now in his life, does not mean his family should have to cater to you; the world does not revolve around you! The quicker that lesson's learned, the better.