Do you have an ex in your life?

My question is about ex's. I have an ex gf the relationship was over half a year ago. She's intent on keeping in touch with me but I have mixed opinions on it because she broke up with me. What I want to know is why I can't just either hate or like her. I keep going back and forth. Is this common with an ex? And for anyone that has dealt with this how did you come to a decision on dealing with your ex. thank you.Do you have an ex in your life?
I stayed friends with my ex.





I don't know why actually.





mental note: stop talking to ex.





Haha, nah, I stayed talking with my ex because even though we broke up, we talked to each other and were pretty close. We had a friendship but not a relationship and it was better that way.





We however did not decide to go back to it like that, and we didn't talk for a few weeks and then started talking again and I just treated her like every other girl I am friends with. I treated her as a friend. I found myself seeing the things I liked in her last time, but I just learnt to push those things out of my head. I knew if we went down that road again it would end in disaster, so each time I got these feelings I would just stop/slow down talking to her for a while until they were gone and I feel as if I could talk to her again without getting those feelings.





With you, she obviously likes talking to you/value's you as a friend. Or maybe she likes you again, but let's stick with the friend thing for now. Just treat her as a friend, put other friends who are girls in the same scenario's with her, just to make sure you're treating her the same way.





Just be a friend, nothing more, nothing less. A friend.Do you have an ex in your life?
It's common soon after a breakup. Almost a year later, not so much. But you were with her, I would hope, because you cared about her to some degree. You didn't get to a point where you cared about her overnight so you can't just turn that off. It's normal to be hurt when someone cuts you loose. Again, the hurt doesn't typically last for months. It does for you because she keeps contacting you. You don't have a chance to really figure out how you feel about her. Don't have any contact with her at all. It will be much easier for you to figure out what it is you want without her in your face.
I don't see any problems in staying in touch with an ex. If anything I feel this can bring a friendship to be a close one as you have been through a lot together.


Sounds like you are a little bitter because she ended it.


Personallyy I think you should stay friends with her. My best friend is one of my ex's and I think its because we had a relationship that we are so close.


You could loose out on a really good friend that one day you might need if you decide not to stay friends with her.
I have two. One I wish would go away....one I keep ahold of because of my kids. (He's my baby daddy....lol).





Honestly??? I think she wants to keep you hanging on because she either likes having control or wants to keep you as an option.





I dated this guy - for about a week. It was bad. We're best friends now.





You can do just that - decide if you like her as a person and the way she makes you feel - and continue to like her.....or if you have a reason to dislike her as a person do it.





Either way - if you feel she's holding you back from moving on - CUT THE STRINGS!!!! GO OUT. DATE!!!! If she has feelings for you I'm CERTAIN once she sees you moving on she'll either, step aside - or step up in front.





Good luck.
i have an ex bf. he is in a relationship now %26amp; im not but he says he still has mad love for me (i will always have love for him to) and he still wants to be physical but i cant have the same feeling for him because hes in a relationship but he dont care so i just try to ignore him (but hes my friend who is 22 is his nephew who is 19) so its hard. srry if this didnt help!
me and my gf just broke up like 3 days ago..


there are times i find myself hating her with like all i have in me...then i see the things she gave me..our pictures and the notes she has written me and it reminds me of all the good times..and how much i truly loved her... my decision...put it in the past...there has to be a reason why we broke up...if our love couldnt keep us together then... i dont think i can trust it with a future...so i just got to move on and know that if she was so great and i lvoed her soo much and she WASNT the one....i cant wait to see how great the ACTUAL one really is.
i still keep in touch with my ex and i think our friendship is okay...





i used to have that kind of mixed feelings, but not anymore. i learned to expect whatever decisions he made for himself and try to understand him and find my own happiness. i don't want to hold anything against him. i think he is still an amazing person even though it didn't last forever with us. we still keep in touch and whenever he wants to talk i'm always up for it.
Ex is an ex to me, I never feel the need to look for them or speak to them. I don't want to be friends we were not friends we were in a relationship and if that did not work out then I feel there is no need to continue any relationship. That is why it is an X to me.
i have always lived by the philosphy, ';ex-es are ex-es for a reason! it didn't work out!';


i don't stay friends with ex-es; because, in reality, we were more than friends at one point in time.


i let it go and move-on. I don't neither hate or like them. I let them move on with their lives, period. good luck. =)
It's a strange thing becomingfriends with your ex. But I do have 2 ex's in my life now and they are both real good friends. I think it depends on what happened in your relationship at the end.
Well.. so, she is intent. You don't have to go by what she wants if it is hard on you. Maybe she likes keeping you around, but if you want to move on, you are free to do so.
I have a couple of ex's..hey Im old..Im allowed to lol





best thing to do is cut all ties..unless the break up is totally mutual with no hard feelings, your better off keeping your distance :)
If you can just remain friends, I think that's really GOOD..most often we can't


I have two ex's that I am friends with
yeah...took me 3years...
yes. especially if you have been in love with them
i neva had an ex...


((getin married 2 my 1st love))