How to deal with your ex dating someone else?

I dated my ex for 3 1/2 years but during that time we were close and we still are even though I had to move away we still talk on the phone every day like ';best friends';. I have even been there for her more than her parents know. I have advised her. My ex also has a terrible past where before I knew her she said her birth father molested her and her brother for 5 years (sick SOB). When I moved, she felt like she was loosing the love of her life so she tried to kill herself in front of me. I calmed her down and told her everything was gonna be alright.


Now it has been 2 1/2 years since I moved and she starting to date another guy (he is almost like me, works in same place,same eye color and hair color). She said her feeling for me are still there and she calls me every day to talk. I think we are the closest we have been since I moved. I still want to talk to her everyday but as friends and someone that can look out for her. It still bugs me because I told her in order for us to be friends, as of right now she can't give me any of the relationship details (kissing, etc) but she can tell me about the guy and we can talk as friends. I still want to be her ';best friend'; like she calls me but any advise on how to handle being friends with her when I still feel the sting because we both still have the feelings but I still want to be there for her as a friend?How to deal with your ex dating someone else?
just get over it if u really love him/her u will set her/him freeHow to deal with your ex dating someone else?
If you both are as important to each other as you think, then she wouldn't be going out with someone else. Quit talking to her and find a new girl.





She will be fine without you.
I don't think you are important to her. Serious!





Plus she is your ex. Why would you bother if she dates or she doesn't? Get someone else from your place!
you jus gta get ova her, n move on. thats jus the way it is
if he is like you, what makes you think she will want to loose him? still talk to her like you have been talking to her... you moved away, and that makes it really difficult on the both of you!! try to move on with your life also... true she say's she will end it with him, but do you really think that she is gonna want to give up her relationship with him to be with a person who is many miles away from her? plus, being in a relationship, it is hard for the new bf or gf to handle that fact that you bff is the same sex as them!! my bff was a male, and my hubby was not having it!! lol
I know this is going to be hard to hear, but heed my words: If you can't deal with her talking about kissing, etc. YOU ARE NOT READY TO BE A TRUE FRIEND TO HER. Take it from me, dude. I know how badly you want to be there for her. But you also have to look at the bigger picture. If she's with another guy, she's not only hurting you but she's hurting this other guy in the same way. By her saying that she still has these feelings for you, that would hurt the other guy by her saying that.





Trust me on this. Be a friend to her in spirit for right now. Keep yourself busy and check back with her once every 2 weeks. Ease yourself off of this woman, because she's with someone else right now. It seems to me that she's attempting to move on after everything thats happened to her. Stop being so selfish and let her move on if you really care about her happiness.





I hope everything works out for you. Take care, dude! :)
awww.... i actually had a friend who was like you as he looked out for his ex when she was dating a druggie. But the fact between him and you is that you still care for her and he doesn't. So I would suggest you love her like a cousin. Get yourself a new girl as well. If given the Time, the relationship between you too will be wonderful.


P.S- don't think of her as a member of the opp. sex (as in someone not related). You guys have a bond. So keep it nicely.