How do you deal with seeing your ex with a new girl?

I go to the same college as my ex. we are around eachother a lot because we share the same friends. So now I have to hear about him hooking up with girls and taking girls out.





Everytime, it never fails, it ALWAYS hurts. I see pictures, I hear stories and my self esteem hits rock bottom. How can I handle this?





Does this mean I'm not over him?





He keeps hooking up with bigger girls. (thats not really relevant but if you find it helpful please comment)How do you deal with seeing your ex with a new girl?
Well, my ex is a girl so I guess I would hope for an invite over.How do you deal with seeing your ex with a new girl?
Whoa, it seems as you and I are in the exact same situation minus the seeing each other almost daily part. It's been hard because we've split up for quite awhile now, and everything still affects me - I mean I hear things about him dating and asking girls out and seeing pictures of him with other girls and it just hurts me every time. I literally break down in pieces - but don't beat yourself over it! It's normal to feel sad and hurt after a breakup - especially when it wasn't on mutual terms. After you've been with that person for awhile and have loved that person for such a long time it's hard to move on enough so that you can at least be happy again. I mean I still love him and it's still so hard to even acknowledge that it's the end of the relationship. But the thing is... you can't always blame yourself for every little thing he does or think that ';he's going out with them because they can make him happier than me,'; or ';she's cuter and funnier or wittier than me.'; That's NOT true. Every negative statement will cause you to hit rock bottom. Don't even think of changing yourself in a way that will impress him or anything to get him back (there's a huge difference between changing and compromising). Get back on track by hanging out with your own group of friends, discovering different things about yourself (like what you can take or can't take in a relationship), and always try out new things! Improve yourself in a way that you'll be happy at what you've accomplished without him :) I mean if you really really do love him so much that you can't bare to let him go: let him go - for now. They always say if you love someone let them go, if they do come back eventually then it means so much more. But don't stay there waiting forever for him, you can move on with your life. And please do move on with your own life - pain is inevitable, but suffering because of the pain is your call. Do cheer up and be strong! I'm hanging in there with you too! Good luck!








And yes there's an article online that I found for you I hope it helps!:





Honestly, you probably won't deal well. Even if you initiated the break up seeing your ex with his or her next can be a shocker. Afterall, this person used to be yours and you used to be the one at his or her side, now there is a new pair of eyes gazing lovingly into his or hers. The important thing to remember (and this is hard) is that you two are no longer together and who your ex is with is not at all about you. This really has nothing to do with you or your life. Sure it may hurt, sure you may want to scream or cry, yes you will want to run away and hide, but in the end this is not a slap in the face directed at you, this is your ex having a life.





One warning, if the other person had anything to do with your break up (as in cheating or acting as confidant to your ex while the relationship was in the dumps) expect to feel angry. You have a right to feel angry. Expect to feel betrayed. You have a right to feel betrayed. Expect to feel hurt. You have a right to feel hurt. But do not under any circumstances freak out and cause a scene. This will do no good to anybody and you will regret it. If your ex was so callous as to involve another person in your break up do you really think that s/he is going to care more now than s/he did while you were together? This person was a factor while you were in a relationship, while your ex was supposed to care about hurting your feelings, why would that ex suddenly care more now? It isn't logical. S/he was with this person and with you at the same time (emmotionally or physically, it doesn't really matter) this new person is not really new at all and you probably already had an inkling that they were together. Take a deep breath, leave if you need to, and cry or freak out in private far away from your ex and the next. Let out your hostile feelings but don't let your ex see them, no good can come from it. If your ex thinks s/he made a mistake with this other person they do not need to have you freak out in order to realize it, they will come around on their own and then your ex will have to deal with his or her own bad feelings. A scene starring you won't change a thing, keep calm long enough to get somewhere safe and private and then vent it out.





As a general rule seeing a person you were once intimate with in an intimate situation with another person hurts. It hurts like heck. It is unpleasant in ways you can't understand unless you have already dealt with the experience. Know it will shock, hurt and confuse you. Know that any negative feelings you had during the break up will come flooding back, even if only for a few minutes. Be prepared to not be happy. But know that this is easier than dealing with a break up and you have already done that. The hardest part is over. Take this type of a run-in as a small step backward and don't deny your hurt feelings. As with all the bad feelings about the break up itself, this too shall pass. And take comfort, there is only ever one surprise meeting with an ex and their next. Phew!
Its def. hard dealing w/ such situations. I do think, though, that if you still feel hurt after seeing him w/ another woman, then you do still have feelings for him. Sometime things dont work and and both parties must move one. Clearly he has, and you havent, but you shouldnt let that affect your self esteem. Go out, and try to meet new ppl so that you can truly move on from him. With time, your strong feelings for him will pass, and you will look back on the situation and wonder why you were so bothered by him dating others. Also, never let an issue w/ a man affect you self esteem, your worth more than that.
ok this always happens...when u break up with sum1 and u find out they hav moved on b4 u did u always feel insecure and a lil jealous and like ur an insignificant person wid nothing ! bt taht does not mean that ur not over this guy! u hav 2 try 2 ignore all the things dat u hear bou him and dat will help ! start hangin out more with yr frnds and if u can, find another boyfriend ! find things dat will keep yr mind off him ! and everytime u see or hear bou him remember why u2 broke up ! dont think bou the good times u spent with him but the reason why u2 decided its not guin 2 work out ! when ppl tell u things say that u dont care and eventually u will see dat u dont ! it will take some time and u hav 2 be determined and u will get over him [if you havent already that is] just remember 'hes a jerk an u dont care wat happens 2 him' ! lol