How do you deal with your ex and their fam?

My exs family refuses to see the kids because i am so horrible they claim. i set some rules, they broke em i got mad and they said that they cant see the kids anymore. i really dont think i am that bad of an ex especially since i have full custody that i dont have to have them around, yet i always beg them to come around. I told them some of my friends have joint custody and dont get to see their kids and some of them get cops called on them and what not i have never been that mean.





i personally think its a copout cause he willingly signed them over he doesnt want to be a dad but he cant stand up to his mom and tell her that instead he says that i am ripping his heart out everytime he sees me. its been 6 yrs i think he needs to get over me.





am i horrible for setting rules and getting after them for breaking them, i know i am not the worst ex out their how do others deal???How do you deal with your ex and their fam?
Hell no you're not being at all mean. I have full custody of my daughter her father and his family have supervised visitation with her. In your case I would get a resraining order on your exs mom. Or if you still feel like being nice talk to your ex and tell him he either calms her down or you will get a resraning order. Sometimes peolpe don't learn the nice way!!How do you deal with your ex and their fam?
Make up your mind.





Do they refuse to see the kids, or do you refuse to allow them to see the kids?





What exactly is your question? From what you posted, you've just complained that they broke a rule you set and now they aren't allowed to see the children. Why are you investing your energy in worrying about what they think? Don't you have anything better going on in your life?
what were the rules? were you being unrealistic? i too am divorced and my x vanished but the apple didn't fall from the tree. i have tried to get his parents to be grandparents for years, no luck. if you want your children to have a life filled with people who love them you have to pick your battles. is the ultimate goal for your children to have a loving lasting relationship with their grandparents or do you want to control everything?
Children know when they are loved or not..why place them around people who are not being kind or loving to them..place some boundaries..if you have a court order visitation order, then keep to that and if the ex doesn't like things that way they are, then he can take you back to court. Sounds like a lot of game playing going on that the children don't need to subject too.
What were the rules you set that they broke? Did they take them to McDonald's instead of making them eat a salad? Or did they allow your teenage child to smoke pot.





If you want an honest answer, you have to give better detail.





And by the way, they can sue for Grandparents rights, and if you can't prove them absolutly abusive and unfit, they'll get them.





Maybe you should lighten up.





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Wow... My daughter's dad dropped of off the planet but we talk about him, I still tell her how much he loves her and its ok to be sad that she doesn't see him. Every once in a while he shows up for an hour and is gone again, he never calls her or attends any school functions or tells her he is proud of her, but I WOULD NEVER tell someone not to talk about it with her. Talking about it helps the child heal!! You HAVE to talk to your kids about it!!


His mother is very involved in my daughter's life. She sees her as much as she wants, whenever she wants. SHe is my BIGGEST supporter.


I can't believe you. You're son is dying inside because all of a sudden HIS DADDY doesn't want him anymore and you don't want him to talk about it?


Be careful or you are going to end up with one messed up little boy
I'm suspicious about your story. you say that he voluntarily signed his rights away which is why you have full custody. Something isn't completely true because the part that you're missing is the majority of states will not simply allow a parent to sign away their rights unless there is a step parent in line waiting to adopt them.





Unless you mean he opted out of joint custody, which I don't believe, because it doesn't make sense for him to say, ';I just want to see my kids, but have no legal rights to them';.





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You are a controlling, and because they don't live up to the standard that YOU set, they can't see the kids. Those kids have a RIGHT to contact their father whenever they please. It seems more to me that you have prevented contact with him because he wasn't living up to the standards that YOU set forth.





A child does not forfeit the right to be with both parents because you divorce. That right is an inalienable right that you as a parent are bound by LAW to foster. Instead you set forth ';rules' as if you're the all knowing power of parenting and chastise adults for not following them to the letter.





What those children need is a judge to step in and deliver you the ultimate sanctions for denying HIS children the RIGHT to be with him.

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