How do you deal with your ex getting married?

So my ex and I were really good friends when we broke up (friends for about 2 years) but then he started to date his new gf and she said he was not a loud to talk to me anymore. The crazy thing was that when we were dating she hit on him several times and offered herself to cheat on me... so I have never really cared for her.





Now 2 years later my best friends calls me to tell me that she ran into another mutual friend and they are now getting married. I have moved on and am planning to get married myself but I am hurt that he did not even tell me he was getting married or invited me (our familys were very close). I emailed him once, a long time ago, but never got a response... he just stoped talking to me one day.





I guess I feel like my question is how do you get over a good friend cutting you out of their life b/c of their gf?





I am also worried b/c I am going home this winter


(with my bf) and home is a small, so I am afraid I will run into them. How do you deal with your ex getting married?
There's nothing you can do but try and be happy for them and just let it go. Obviously this friend/ex wasn't that good of a friend if he decides to cut people out due to his partner choices. Even if it made the new girlfriend uncomfortable, he has a right to be friends with who he wants, and he's obviously made his choice.





My ex/long-time good friend is getting married a few months before me, and I'm genuinely happy for him. We're not going to each other's weddings or anything, but we exchange e-mails every now and then to compare notes since we're both planning weddings.





Just let it go, hun. Accept that you guys aren't friends anymore. It happens.How do you deal with your ex getting married?
Chapters in our lives close to make room for new doors and opportunities to follow with new life. Some people that we once loved move on. Keep the memories and lessons in your heart. Let it go and be happy for him. If you ever run into him respect him for obeying his wife's wishes as she would also do for him.
Both of you have moved on.. it is normal to have these feelings... wanting what you cant have.. be proud of your boyfriend! Aim to show him off to your ex and try to contact your ex and tell him how proud of him you are. He will appreciate this and maybe the awkwardness will leave. I hope this helps! Everything will work out fine!
You're hurt because he didn't invite, you, his ex-girlfriend to his wedding... Really? I mean come on?





He didn't cut you out of his life because of his gf, he cut you out of his life because you are his ex-girlfriend...





It's seriously time to move on.
Get on with you life, if you run into them be the bigger person and wish them both well. Don't dwell on it.
sounds like your not over him.Its time to let go girlfriend.
I know your hurt and everything but think about your situation for a second, step back and look at what you wrote as an outsider.


Why in the world would you want to go/be invited to this guys wedding? It's with the girl that tried to get him to cheat on you! Neither of them sound like winners to me. Any decent guy would have cut THAT girl out of his life not the friend. You e-mailed him once a long time ago and never got a response so of course your not going to be informed of important events going on in his life. He couldn't be bothered to stand up for himself to this girl and keep a good friendship in his life. Why would you want this guy in your life at all?


As far as running into him when you and your guy are at your hometown...don't even worry about it. You have both moved on from the relationship, time to move on from the friendship. You've got a great guy whom you are getting married to, and unless there was some growing/maturing going on (which it doesn't sound like there was since he still is not talking to you) then his isn't so great.
I understand your hurt, but life has moved on for BOTH of you and clearly, he may be ';held hostage'; by this gal who he may find after marriage, is not who he thought she was...I suspect. Something not right here I sense...That said.





Go home and have a good time this winter, be with your boyfriend and do fun things, enjoy your family - and if you should run into him and her or him? Smile dear, bite your tongue/hold your heart in check and just say how nice it is to see him, you wish him well, then get the hell out of there, okay? No sense adding to the injury you already feel. This is going to pass for you...for him...I'm actually feeling sorry for him, because as I say, this sounds a little obsessive on his fiancee's part. How'd ya like to be married TO THAT?! If you look at it from a sympathy angle, you'll see you've been fortunate to find another you care for and that perhaps your ex is lacking more autonomy and a backbone - not traits I would want in a husband, believe me!





You be grace under pressure (my nickname but I've changed it a little)


and smile dear...and move on.





Sincerely,





Grace
Three words. Get over it! First, no matter if you are friends or not, it would be highly inappropriate and in very bad taste for him to invite you to his wedding. I would flip out if my fiancee's ex were at my wedding. I would have her thrown out! I would not care if they were friends or not, that would be humiliating to a bride. Second. It is none of your business because he has obviously chosen to exclude you from his life. Harsh reality, but he has chosen his new bride and you are no longer a part of his life. You just have to accept that and move on. If you say anything or try to find out what his reasons are you will just be viewed as the crazy ex that will not get over him. Not to metion your new fiancee. I would be furious to find out that my mate was upset over her ex not wanting to talk to him or (hell no) come to my wedding. I would tell him to pack it up and get out if he is still so worried about his ex that is getting married to somone else. I think you have other issues. Seriously,he is your ex and I do not blame his fiancee one little bit for not wanting him to talk to you. Leave your relationship in the past...he has!
There is no such thing as being friends with your ex. You might have thought so or tried to make it so for the comfortableness or closeness that you shared, but you can never be friends with an ex. And even more so when you have both moved on and are planning futures with other people. Small town or not, when you run into them be polite, congratulate them on their upcoming nuptials and move on. Imagine how uncomfortable it is going to be on the other halves and remember there was a reason you broke up and leave it at that. Were you planning on inviting him to your wedding????
I have to agree with the majority of what people are saying here. He has left you in the past by not replying to your email, so you should leave him in the past. You've already built your own future around your bf and don't need to worry about your ex's plans, wedding, life, or anything related to him...that is, if you're over him, which it doesn't sound like you are. Your exes are exes for a reason, why do you still care what he does? Respect the both of them by leaving them alone..you even said that that girl said he's not allowed to speak with you anymore, so there you have it. I have told my husband that he should not be contacting his exes also, it's just respectful that he shows me he wants to move into the future with me, not try to rekindle or re-live his past with other people. Sorry, but that's just being brutally honest.
Don't be afraid to run into them. If you do just be yourself and do whatever comes naturally.


She is the one with the problem not you.





Sounds like you have moved on and are doing great. So don't let either one of them spoil your time home with the family.





Put a smile on your face when you see them. Don't let her know she bothers you. And know that he must still have strong feelings for you as a friend or she wouldn't want him to stay away from you. His loss !





Be happy!






friends grow apart even if there's a 'history' between the two......sounds like his lack of response to your long ago e-mail may have been the time he and his fiancee started to become serious and he decided it was best not to have a long ago love in his life...out of respect for the fiancee.


he's moved on after putting a period on your friendship....so accept it and move on yourself....neither one of you are obligated in any way to keep the other up-dated on the 'goings on' in each of your lives, nor is there any obligation for the both of you to keep the other in their lives......that's life, Hon..concentrate on your fiance, that is where the importance is....but you do know that anyway, lol...


...and why fear running into them? Just Hi, how ya doing....introduce the fiance/fiancee's to each other, then nice seeing ya, bye and move on...where's the fear factor in that?








good luck.
Okay so you say that you guys are good friends, but you haven't talked in a while. Your families WERE close. You need to move on with your new life with you Husband 2 be.





Some women find it offensive for their SO to still speak to an ex. If that is the ultimatum she gave him and he chose her, then you have to respect that.





Maybe you haven't gotten over him and you are afraid that if you see him, all those feeling will come rushing back. But you will have to deal with that and move forward.





You should not have been invited to their wedding. If you guys were still close friends and she was fine with it, then yes you probably would have been invited.





My fiance is still very close friends with his ex. She is happily married. Her and her husband are coming to our wedding next year. But my ex, whom I am not friends with, is not being invited.